Have You Ever Fallen in Love With Your Date?

You had only good intentions. Keep things simple and safe. Just dabble in a bit of fun on the side with a bombshell brunette. You know. Kick up your heels a bit and put the F back into fun. The wife’s content with her world and you’re both on decent terms; work’s going great and the mortgage is almost paid off. But then, you done went and fell in love. Seriously?

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The heart is never invited to those steamy encounters

But on this particular date things were different. Maybe it’s because life is fairly bland and hasn’t thrown you any curves balls in a while so your guards were down. Or, perhaps a hint of loneliness has been tugging at your psyche for a while and this companion pushed all of your emotional buttons. She actually fulfilled you in more ways than just with frolic. Somehow, things felt so right during those few hours and you felt ardently on top of the world. She left you with a hop in your step but more importantly, a swell in your chest because you’ve been with butterflies ever since.

A hobbyist is not supposed to fall in love

But it happens. Heck, we’ve even seen a gent and his escort tie the knot. Sugar arrangements are probably a more common answer to intense romance – when you must see your muse on a regular basis otherwise you can’t function properly. In a way, such an emotional entanglement can present a sort of ball and chain in that it robs you of the very freedom you enjoyed going into the whole hobbying thing in the first place. Or not.

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She makes you feel young again

Now, gents. Youthfulness is a state of mind and can be robbed of your soul at any age. If you’ve been working your tail off for decades and intimacy at home is in the refrigerator, her affection just might manifest the juvenescence in you. Voila! It’s sensual spring time and and you have a new lease on life.

The prime of your life renewed

Not only are you hizzit’n the skizzins like a virile 18-year old into the wee morning hours, but this chick gets off riding the flagpole like a wild cowgirl and has rendered you immortal in the process. You’ve got your mojo back and that glow about you shows. It’s just that her incredible body void of even an ounce of baby fat and those succulent lips drive you mad with desire. Whatever self- control you used to have is nowhere to be found and your brain is on holiday for the heart rules. Sure, all those yummy escorts you’ve dated over the years were epic but none of them ever had a vice grip on your heart.

Maybe it’s that small golden talisman that she wears on her nude person

Or the way her long hair falls about you when she’s…well, you know. Or perhaps it’s because she listens intently to everything you say and doesn’t ask too many questions, only to respond with another round of kisses. Her energy is unfettered; her inhibitions nonexistent. Her attitude is untainted; her desire for pleasure lustfully unconstrained. When the timing is right, no man can resist.

When does it end?

Only fate knows the answer. But for sure, when it is supposed to. Most important is not to muck things up with drama. Keep your affair neat, clean and confidential. Never spill the beans about your private life, personal affairs or those of your wife and kids (if you have them). Should your relationship ever turn South, the last thing you want to face is a confrontation or worse, a divorce. Enjoy the ride while you can because you never know if it will be the last.

Ultimate Guidelines for Becoming a Sugar Daddy

Most independent escorts enjoy their profession because of the freedom and independence that it gives them. On occasion, a companion may find herself becoming extremely comfortable with a client or even having feelings for him. When a hobbyist shares her sentiments, a potential sugar relationship is born.

When an independent escort becomes a sugar baby, her regular business becomes inactive. In some cases, she maintains multiple sugar relationships simultaneously. For the hobbyist turned sugar daddy, what is his role? We have come up with some guidelines based upon what we’ve seen and heard within the industry.

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A sugar daddy should be in a position to meet his financial obligation

A sugar daddy is an established gentleman who is usually a wealthy entrepreneur or operates a successful corporation. He is at a point in his life where he can enjoy the freedom and exhilaration that being with a sugar baby gives him. His net worth is solid, he drives a luxury automobile and he can afford to take care of himself. He has ample income to compensate his sugar baby on a regular basis (weekly, bi-weekly or monthly). In exchange, he enjoys her companionship through regular dating, traveling, conversation and intimacy.

A sugar arrangement should be respectful and beneficial to both

A sugar relationship is a contracted relationship. Both parties should enter into the agreement fully aware of what each gives to the other. How often will a sugar daddy want to see his sugar baby? How much advance notice does she need to set aside quality time to see him? Details of the arrangement should be understood at all times to keep things clear. A proper sugar daddy demonstrates the value and worth of his sugar baby by looking out for her in several ways:

  • He sees that she is well taken care of with an elegant wardrobe;
  • He makes sure that living conditions are top notch;
  • He ensures that her transportation is more than adequate and accommodating;
  • He regularly shows his appreciation for her beauty, intelligence and is there for her when she needs him.

luxury dinner served on  the table with glass of red wine

 

Generosity is important

Above and beyond the agreed financial compensation that a sugar daddy bestows upon his sugar baby, he shows his generosity by giving her gifts and trinkets and even surprises her with romantic travel excursions. Remember, the little details that count! On one occasion he may bring her flowers; on another he may surprise her with tickets to the theater; he might treat her to a luxurious dinner at a prestigious restaurant; and in some cases, may even buy her a new car. A sugar baby should feel that she is special to her sugar daddy. The sum of his gestures and her gracious receipt of them will encourage a wonderfully exciting and stable sugar relationship.

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Setting boundaries is the golden rule in a sugar relationship

No matter how genuine, intense or romantic a sugar relationship becomes, a sugar daddy and sugar baby should not become too attached and never lose respect. Doing so goes against the rules of the contracted relationship, blurs boundaries and can seriously jeopardize the arrangement. Even though she is a sugar baby, she has a life, may have a job or go to school and even have children. A sugar daddy should expect his sugar baby to establish some sort of schedule that applies to how often and when they see each other, frequency of phone calls and communication in general. On the other hand, a sugar daddy should not:

  • Abuse the relationship by taking advantage of her in any way;
  • Show up at her home unexpectedly;
    Control her life; or
  • Infringe upon her private matters.

A sugar baby is not an object but a human being to be respected at all times.

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Never forget good hygiene

When a sugar daddy takes good care of himself his sugar baby will appreciate his efforts and likely find him more attractive. The last thing a sugar daddy should do is ‘let himself go’ because he feels that he is entitle to do so. Chances are that his sugar baby will be considerably younger than him with a lot of vitality. Regular exercise, a healthy diet and vitamin supplements all contribute to good health. Neat, fashionable attire, meticulous grooming and regular skin treatments are all a part of maintaining good hygiene.

A sugar relationship should be loads of fun

The world is an exciting playground in a sugar relationship! Build great experiences by getting to know one another, going places, traveling, dining, talking and laughing. A sugar daddy should take in his sugar baby’s youthful exuberance and positive energy by living life to the fullest. Isn’t that what it’s all about?

Unforgettable kisses, Chloe xoxo

When a Hobbyist Wants to Marry an Escort

When a dating engagement is carefully measured, considering all aspects of compatibility, the stage is set for explosive chemistry. Such is the scenario when a hobbyist pursues the company of a companion or courtesan who excels in the girl friend experience. Most likely, he is not looking for permanent love. But if he seeks emotional and/or psychological fulfillment or restoration from loneliness, his heart becomes vulnerable. Factor in his escort’s physical splendor and charismatic personality and he becomes a bulls eye target for amour.

hobbyist marrying an escort

While this may appear as a scary question due to the nature of her work as a companion, what man really knows the difference in the beginning of any love relationship? Romance and matters of the heart involve powerfully blinding emotions that can skew the good judgment of anyone.

Is it really love or just infatuation?

There are no guarantees in any relationship and if there were, insurance companies would bank! There are men and women alike who come from multiple divorces, dysfunctional families, broken homes and even abusive backgrounds. Someone, please reveal the ideal formula for a marriage that does not end. Even childhood sweethearts with storybook families end up divorced. Who is to say that the hobbyist/escort romance cannot tie the knot and prevail indefinitely?

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Is he headed down the sugar daddy path?

There is a chance that if she stops working in order to devote her time exclusively to her man and their relationship, her income will vanish. Both parties must check within themselves for genuineness of their involvement. Further, supporting a partner is a financial and emotional responsibility (regardless of his net worth) which can burden the relationship if not handled openly and with clear intent. However, if hobbyist turned fiancé accepts his role as main breadwinner, they are in love and escort turned future wife agree, then it is not a sugar relationship.

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Will she continue working as an independent escort if they marry?

Now here is an interesting twist that defies all convention. Admittedly, there are those marriages in which an escort remains same with knowledge and acceptance of her husband. Are they swingers? Do they have children? Does he fully accept what she does for a living? Personally, I do not know what the divorce rate is of such a unique demographic, but who cares? Even the most conservative couples divorce for a myriad of reasons. Often when an escorting couple divorces, the split is caused by reasons indirectly related to the act of escorting itself.

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Will she sign an annulment?

Doing so may be considered a true test of love. While I understand how a gentleman would want to protect his assets, especially if he has an x-wife who took him to the cleaners during the divorce process, many women find the proposition offensive. Truthfully, two people should marry for nothing but love and a balanced ability of both parties to support each other spiritually, mindfully and psychologically. But that is not the way the world works for most.

Proceed with caution and wisdom

Perhaps the most difficult challenge for the hobbyist who wants to marry his escort is honoring the deepest corners of his integrity. He should remain clear about his true intentions with a sharp eye focused on the fate of his future. In the end, both parties should remember that despite what conventional society has to say, what do they know? If there was a perfect formula for marriage then no one would be divorced.

With boundless kisses, Chloe xoxo