What Makes One Escort Better Than Another?

Your zeal for beautiful women has inspired you to date countless independent escorts over the years. Certainly, some have been better than others. All are unmistakably attractive and most have pleasured you at least to a certain degree. But in what sense is one companion superior to another? Let’s take a closer look at some of the qualities that form the ‘total package’ that is a first-rate escort.

She has a rockin’ body that doesn’t quit

It is the type of figure that every woman covets. Naturally, she is big into fitness which lends heavily to those long, lean yet muscular legs and ridiculously firm bubble bum. Her stomach is chiseled to perfection just below bouncy curves that defy gravity. Her feet are perfectly manicured and bring out the fetish in you.. Her body is a showstopper akin to a Victoria’s Secret model and you go out of your mind with desire. Most importantly, she knows what to do with it.


She has illustrious hair and velvety-smooth skin

Two of the best assets on an independent escort are silken skin and long, glorious tresses that your hands cannot get enough of. Whether it’s an evening of romantic dining at your favorite restaurant or a flurry of private matters in the boudoir, both serve as delicious eye candy and you’ve got a major sweet tooth.

Her carnal aptitude is mind blowing

As a natural pleaser, this trophy of an escort spoils you with ground-shaking delight the likes of which you have never experienced. Now, that’s saying a lot being that you’ve been hobbying forever. What separates this lascivious muse from the rest is an animalistic drive that needs to be satiated on a regular basis. Such cravings WOW your intimacy which is why you feel like king of the universe every time you see her. In short, this chick is the real deal.

Guy and girl enjoying eachother's company at a bar

Personalities just don’t get more charismatic

Is she faking it? Moodiness is not a word to describe her starburst disposition. She has a temperament like sunshine that breaks through the clouds after a thunderstorm. Her cheery disposition melts all stress rattling your nerves and all is right with the world. Here is an escort who is chemically balanced and emotionally grounded with a positive outlook on life. If only more women could be like her…

She is witty and smart but not stuck-up

Since you are a gentleman who seeks the girlfriend experience for whatever reasons (only you know what they are) it is quite nice to be able to carry an intelligent conversation. Equal to a woman’s physical splendor is a quick wit and innate wisdom for a combination of appeal that renders her the keeper that you seek. This companion is the sum of such allure and has piqued your interest to no end.

Her psychology is spot on

Quite possibly the summit of all attributes is this escort’s quiet ability to know what you are thinking, feeling and desiring pretty much at all times. She reads your male radar with total precision. More importantly, she gauges what to say and how to say it without going overboard. It is an invisible talent that she uses to the advantage of both of you. In a nutshell, she is a true lady and the highest compliment a man can hope to ask for.

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Connecting Deeply Through the Girlfriend Experience

Ever wonder if there are hobbyists who seek companionship for connection deeper than just a few hours of frolic? Many beautiful relationships are shared between independent escorts and hobbyists who seek meaning that delves beyond skin deep.

Understanding the role of a companion

Many companions serve different roles in diverse capacities. Spending an hour or two with a gentleman to entertain him is probably the most common. But there are companions and independent escorts whose roles in the lives of their hobbyist friends extend far beyond a quick tryst. These ladies are well acquainted with passion. They are confidantes whether gentlemen express their deepest feelings or taboo desires. A courtesan understands the psychological composition of her client. She is nurturing in an emotional aspect. She caters to his physical needs much in the same way a massage therapist ‘feels’ the physiological needs of her patient. No matter her label, a provider is a master of men. Her expert tuition lovingly and compassionately nurtures his physical, emotional and psychological whims according to his needs and requests.

What circumstances lead a gentleman to an escort?

It is true that many men seek the company of an escort because they want to have a good time. Motivation is different from man to man. Perhaps he is single and is looking for a thrill. He may be lonely and desire to confide in a companion who pampers him and takes care of him in many ways. He might come from a troubled marriage and seek healing in total confidentiality. Perhaps his needs are of a fetish nature and he secretly desires to explore them. On a different note, there are women, girlfriends and wives with cravings to explore introduction of another woman into their relationships. In all cases, sensual openness is the main component in assisting ladies and gentlemen to understand and fulfill their needs.

Deep connection
Deep connection

Defining the deep connection

Establishing chemistry moves beyond stunning lingerie, a good time and a few laughs. There is a strong sense of openness, a flame that is ignited, a kindling of the spirits that turns a date into an ongoing affair. It might take two or three encounters to seal this kind of connection. As with any relationship, qualities build from there. As a result, there are those hobbyist/escort interactions that evolve into sugar daddy/sugar baby arrangements. There are also gentlemen who re-discover intimacy with their wives through interacting with an independent escort. They talk about their marriages in a therapeutic form. And there are couples who seek to explore their relationships with the guided hand of a companion.

closeup picture of man and woman's hands with gift box
closeup picture of man and woman’s hands with gift box

The girlfriend experience is a multi-faceted one

It means different things to different people. Just the same, different factors draw hobbyists to independent escorts for different reasons. Most certainly, it is the emotional familiarity of the experience to which they connect and often even nostalgia that men seek. There are many different layers of love. Marriage represents one of them. Some hobbyists fall in love with their companions as a result of the connection. Regardless, intimacy seems to be the missing link in marriages or relationships that lead gentlemen to find the girlfriend experience within the company of an independent escort.

Fervent kisses, Chloe xoxo

Quieting Holiday Loneliness with a GFE

Amidst happy lovers bundled arm in arm, Christmas carols resonating throughout the city and holiday shoppers bustling at the mall quietly mingle the lonely souls of many hobbyists

They show us what they want us to see: smiling faces, secure demeanors and professional composure. Yet beneath the surface dwells a state of unfulfillment in their homes. They experience lack of love and intimacy in dormant marriages that have been frozen for years. These hobbyists coexist with their wives in a barren world of monotony, mortgage payments and facades of false happiness. On a darker side, their marriages suffer from arguments or worse, fighting, separation and divorce.

Not all hobbyists are necessarily out to turn a few tricks or on a more perverse note take advantage of women as independent escorts

There are a lot of good men (whether single or not) who dabble in the demimonde of adult entertainment out of yearning for genuine companionship that surpasses the mere physical aspect associated with escorts. Herein lies the reality that shatters the stigma attached to independent escorting. These men have a hunger to satisfy their needs for closeness and understanding in a loving and non judgmental environment offered by gorgeous companions who believe in the girl friend experience.

Silhouette of kissing girl and guy
Silhouette of kissing girl and guy

What exactly is the girlfriend experience?

It means different things to different people. The term has evolved since its origin to the point that some independent escorts do not want to be associated with the acronym or any other label that might pool them with all the rest. Many escorts use it as a marketing tool while others genuinely offer the girlfriend experience. The modern day, successful GFE possesses sophisticated, psychological insight and a charismatic talent for attracting and bonding with her clients. Often times, hobbyist and companion become close friends, blurring the lines between paid companionship and true camaraderie.

When such a relationship reaches this heightened level of intimate stability, it may stabilize into what is known as a sugar daddy/sugar baby arrangement or simply an ongoing tryst.

All alone on Christmas Eve

It doesn’t have to be this way. A hobbyist or gentleman who does not have a conventional girlfriend, close friends or family does not have to suffer in silence with an aching heart during the most sentimental time of year. Whether he chooses to spend one hour with a smoking hot bombshell or a weekend with a tender soul blessed with understanding and total femininity, there are companions out there eager to become the period at the end of his sentence. It is just a matter of defining who she is and finding her.

Check list. Vector illustration EPS version 8.
Check list. Vector illustration EPS version 8.

Make a list and check it twice

If a man wanted to purchase a car, he would eventually develop a ‘needs list’ of the features that the automobile should contain after looking at so many. Before he made the purchase, he would know exactly what he wanted. Do your homework. Start by making a list on paper of the features that define the woman who best suits your personality, needs and desires. Shop around. Read biographies. Look at photos. Get a feel for her style. Inquire with a few (without wasting their time) to get a sense of chemistry. If it fits the budget, one or two pre-requisite dates are highly recommended before spending significant holiday time with a lady to find out the hard way that the two of you may not be suited for each other.

New Year’s Eve is just around the bend

We all know that life slows down to a crawl this time of year. Many ladies are spending time with family and may not be available. Connecting with an independent escort whom you really like is a task that should be pursued well in advance before the actual holiday arrives. Who knows? The two of you might actually take a trip together to ring in the New Year.

Many kisses, Chloe xoxo

Becoming a Bon Vivant

Becoming a bon vivant is all about the gentleman who pursues the finer luxuries in life. Such a man enjoys fine dining, wines worthy of conversation, culture, traveling, fashionable attire, fresh hygiene and that overused word – class. Being a bon vivant begins with an attitude that does not require you look like Al Pacino.

Beautiful young sexy woman in luxurous dress


What if you are a sneakers and jeans kinda guy or a dude who is clueless about fashion? You harbor secret aspirations to be ‘that guy’, the James Bond of every escort’s dream date. In any case, we have easy solutions to becoming a hobbyist who wants to be a bon viveur (French derivative) starting with just the person you are.

Identify your culinary expectations

While frequenting five-star restaurants is usually a safe bet, a true bon vivant will discover the less known culinary establishments that bring heightened definition to cuisine. Often, the chain or larger establishment restaurants are pleasant or marginal (depending on which city you are in). Many sugar daddies favor smaller bistros or independent restaurants that flatter with personalized attention and culinary art this side of orgasmic. In short, whatever your taste in food whether fried chicken or escargot, make it your passion to find the best.

fine wine

Develop your palette for fine wines

As a general rule of thumb, a good wine is usually not to be purchased at the grocery store. If you aspire to become a vino aficionado, discover a few local boutique wine merchants in your area who host wine tastings. It is quite possible to purchase a bottle of wine for a few dollars with a 10 rating. Such boutique merchants are good sources for such secrets. Wine regions the likes of Tuscany, Piedmont, Barcelona, Madrid, Mendoza, Santiago, Chile, Bordeaux, Loire and Rhone name just a few. Attending wine tastings and getting to know your palette is a fantastic dating option!

Hone your cultural cravings

Are you into classic or modern art, gothic or comedy illustration art? As a hobbyist, do you harbor an artistic niche that captures your attention? Perhaps theater, dance, classic rock or symphony interests you. If you answered yes to any of the aforementioned, expand your lifestyle and get to know your interests.

Miami Vizcaya museum garden view
Miami Vizcaya museum garden view

Travel overseas or in your own backyard

Did you know that Tennessee is home of the Great Smokey Mountains? New York home of the Guggenheim and Museum of Modern Art? Chicago the Briar Street Theater? Miami the Villa Vizcaya? I could go on and on. Take romance to the tenth power with your date to Hawaii, Europe, Latin America or the Orient. Companions who are into the girlfriend experience and are willing to travel will only enhance your encounters.

Close-up of elegance man hands with cufflink over dark background
Close-up of elegance man hands with cufflink over dark background

How to dress fashionably

Looking good in clothes makes a man walk taller. If you are a hobbyist who is wardrobe compromised, the section applies to you. Gentlemen, there is no excuse for being unexposed to fashion. Begin with the style of dress you like to wear and take it to a new level. Plan a shopping day and visit department stores and boutiques who will attend you with customized service. You do not have to spend a million bucks to look good.

Hygiene is second to none

Taking good care of your body extends beyond a shower and washing your hair (which should be well-trimmed and neatly styled). Men, take control of bodily fur by way of shaving or waxing; if the vision of your toes and bottoms of your heals are less than desirable, visit a spa; have your teeth cleaned regularly to curb bad breath; take vitamins and herbal supplements to cleanse from within. You will thank us when your companion is all over you!

A is for attitude, V is for virtue

Locker room lingo should not only be left at home but deleted from your vocabulary. The operative word is ‘genteel’, the man who is respectful with a true admiration for women. He is the same man who treats customer service with respect in public and does not assume an arrogant attitude at any time with anyone. He stands up humbly for that in which he believes.

We’ve only touched the tip of the iceberg

Becoming a bon vivant will only enhance your girlfriend experience. Readers, follow these steps closely and be on the lookout for addendums to this article. City Girls is determined to provide you with as much knowledge as you choose to absorb! Happy hobbying

Love, Chloe xoxo

A Hobbyists Guide to Stress Relief Through Meditation

Jerry Seinfeld, Rupert Murdoch and Oprah Winfrey do it every day. Bob Roth, executive director of the David Lynch Foundation has been teaching it for more than forty years. It’s called Transcendental Meditation (TM for short) and if you’re thinking flower power, stop, breathe deeply and listen up before you recoil.

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Fortune 500 companies the likes of Google, AOL, Apple and Aetna offer meditation and mindfulness classes to their employees. TM is no hippie nonsense and it’s not a religion. Anyone can benefit from meditation especially hobbyists who are under a lot of stress.

Where did TM begin?

With roots in India, meditation became popular in the Western world during the 1960s and 1970s. Maharishi Mahesh yogi, originator of the TM movement said, “Through Transcendental Meditation, the human brain can experience that level of intelligence which is an ocean of all knowledge, energy, intelligence, and bliss.” Today, practicing TM does not mean that you must be a Buddhist or even subscribe to any religion because it does not have a philosophy unlike some other forms of meditation.

Golden Buddha, Wat Pho, Thailand
Golden Buddha, Wat Pho, Thailand

It’s time to unplug

Occasionally it is necessary to reboot our computers. Practicing TM is similar, sort of like clearing the cache in your brain and restarting your energy with a sense of calmness that lifts the soul. Many hobbyists and gentleman seek the company of independent escorts because they are stressed out. Being in the company of a beautiful companion, someone who provides a total girl friend experience is certainly exhilarating. Implementing TM twenty minutes, two times per day can make the difference between a fantastic date and phenomenal encounter when the mind is relaxed and open.

Quieting that busy mind

Plagued by racing thoughts at night or on the weekends when you should be chilling out? Do you struggle to sit still? Anxiety caused by stress is a killer and cause of heart disease.

How TM works

Allocate twenty minutes a day of quiet time and use a mantra to liberate your mind from conscious thought which triggers meditation. Mantra is a Sanskrit term for a sound, syllable, word or group of words that is considered capable of ‘creatingtransformation’ (remember the famous mantra, Om?).Mantras work in theory because they are meaningless word sounds as we know them. One is chosen for you by a TM teacher from a library of dozens that goes back to TM’s ancient Vedic traditions. Your mantra is never to be shared with anyone without affecting your karma. For the consideration that a hobbyist puts forth to spend a few hours of delicious time with a gorgeous independent escort, you can learn TM. With a certified TM instructor you will become familiar with Transcendental Consciousness which is the most pure nature of the mind. Most ladies and gentlemen are only aware of the active mind, the sleep state and the dreaming mind.

Why Transcendental Meditation?

While you may think that meditating sounds crunchy or earthy, science suggests otherwise. You’ll think more clearly because TM increases brain wave coherence; you’ll be less stressed and could even live longer because TM decreases production of cortisol, the stress hormone; you’ll be more organized because brain coherence gives more control to the prefrontal cortex, home of the ‘executive function’; you might quit smoking, drinking or doing drugs (if you’re one of those hobbyists we don’t like to engage with) as many TM folks have claimed.

City Girls cares about its club members

Hobbying is exclusive to those who can afford the luxury. A sugar daddy basks in the attention of a beautiful babe because he has the financial freedom to do so. An independent escort enjoys a comfortable lifestyle of traveling, a dazzling wardrobe and lavish attention bestowed upon her by her suitors. The quality of your interaction with a lovely companion is discounted when your mindset and health are compromised by life’s difficulties. At City Girls, we believe in taking a well-rounded approach to good living that begins with the inner you and a little meditation.


Chloe xoxo

How Hot Escorts Mess With Your Mind

Something happens when a man gets in front of a supremely gorgeous independent escort whom he has met for the very first time. Almost unconsciously, his composure turns to jello and his behavior and opinions conform to that of his date. Wherein lies the truth?

How Hot Escorts Mess With Your Mind

The reader should note that I do not speak for all hobbyists, naturally. But there is a good chance that a companion’s beauty can stifle his brain and skew the truthfulness of his remarks. Perhaps this is a candy-coated manner of saying that lies may come forth in an effort to impress his date.

Dishonesty confuses the truth

As a hobbyist, the more you lie the more your brain accepts those lies as fact. Honesty rules! Women (and independent escorts, for that matter) find men far more interesting and physically attractive when they are forthright. Do not confuse dishonesty with your memory of truth.

Honesty and related 3d words including sincerity, believability, integrity, openness, transparency, truth, fairness and other virtues that build your reputation
Honesty and related 3d words including sincerity, believability, integrity, openness, transparency, truth, fairness and other virtues that build your reputation

Honesty increases physical attraction

A hobbyist or sugar daddy can ensure his credibility and attraction when he is honest with his escort, especially if she is all about the girlfriend experience. Women find honest men much more attractive when they tell the truth. Consider honesty an insurance policy!

Build your reputation as a sought after hobbyist

No matter your stature, if you are a gentleman who displays honesty you also show an empathetic side which is undeniably attractive to escorts. Women find such traits terribly appealing and attractive. This is in fact, the hobby and anything a man can do to increase his allure will be in his favor.

Luscious escorts are people, too

Independent escorts are ladies who are often not only sensuous but compassionate, intelligent and ambitious in their business endeavors. Do not let their exceptional physical blessings deceive you into thinking that they are trite, superficial or lacking in intelligence.

Always remember that every person and every escort has a story. Listen up, guys! Do not be overcome by devastatingly dashing good looks!

Increasing Your Intimacy for Hobbyists and Independent Escorts

As a hobbyist, the depth of your intimacy is directly related to the quality of the time you spend with an independent escort.

Sure, you can leave it all in the hands of your companion and chances are (especially at City Girls) that she will outdo herself in showering you with satisfaction. But why leave intimacy to chance when you can double the bang for your buck with a little insight? That’s where we come in.

Wake-up Call Green Road Sign with Dramatic Clouds, Sun Rays and Sky.

The super sexy wake-up call

Experts say that those who frolic in the morning before going to work are much healthier than those who do not. Spend the night with your date. Get in your head as the two of you are going to bed (probably after a super sensual evening) that you want to surprise her in the morning with your rockin’ a.m.libido. What a fulfilling way to start the day!

Take a shower together

Just imagine rubbing warm oil all over each other! I’m sure your date would be happy to massage you all over with sudsy soap leaving you more than squeaky clean. As most independent escorts at City Girls are blessed with figures that will defy your vision, taking a relaxing shower together will stimulate your attraction simultaneously. What an oxymoron!

Sexy couple together in the shower standing behind the transparent bath curtain

Regulate your drinking

While a little bubbly may fuel the flame of your desires, consuming too much alcohol equals a good thing gone bad. Alcohol consumption can impair your judgment and even cause you to commit actions that you might regret. Certainly do not greet your date intoxicated or high on any other drug for that matter. That is not the mark of a gentleman.

Silence your phone

Silence your phone

As you are moving in for the girl friend-style kiss it is rather interruptive for your phone to ring. It is rude for you to answer it. Silence your phone and better yet, turn it off completely. Life will go on. On the other hand, if you as a hobbyist are awaiting a very important call that cannot be avoided, alert your date from the beginning out of courtesy so that she knows what to expect.
We are talking pure, unadulterated pleasure

Here at City Girls, we believe in the girlfriend-experience, the specialty of all of our club members. GFE is all about closeness, warmth and understanding between a hobbyist and independent escort. Whether you spend one hour with your date or 24, familiarity is key to mutual affection. As a hobbyist, if you seek to develop a fondness with your date or are simply looking for a good time passing through town on a business engagement, increasing your intimacy is a talent beheld by all of our independent escorts.

Chloe xoxo

Irresistible Things That Escorts Do

Beyond the dangerously hot lingerie and heavenly evil good looks, what do hobbyists find most irresistible about their independent escorts? Subtle episodes discovered mostly in the girlfriend experience are what cause a hobbyist to feel like a million bucks.

Looking up at you with those big, sexy eyes

And you experience an immediate transformation into superman, every hobbyist’s kryptonite! It is a moment of sublime intimacy when bliss has its way and a warm fuzzy takes over. The conversation is light and sweet, peppered with an aftermath of smooches. When suddenly, you look at her as she and her phenomenal figure are wrapped around you and eyes lock as she looks up at you. Good Lord and the heaven’s above! This woman is a luxurious rhapsody and you are God. Truly.

Putting on a tight pair of jeans

The independent escort who dares wear jeans on a date is sure to give new meaning to the fitted material and she knows it. Ever steal a glimpse of your date pouring herself *back* into her denim after the fact? Oh, my. What a site to behold! Long tresses tossing about, arms flexed tugging the fabric against gravity and that derriere obeying her efforts to fit it all in. Could be that those 30 seconds of eye candy equal the 40 minutes of frolic in which you just engaged!

When she holds your bicep

You do not have to be Arnold Schwarzenegger to relish this one. You’ve just enjoyed a fabulous evening of dining and are walking on clouds between sips of champagne. If you thought she looked stunning at dinner, she is simply mouthwatering for desert in her bits of lace and mile high stilettos. She sits down next to you talking and laughing as she gently places her hand on your bicep. Suddenly, you flex and if you haven’t worked out you definitely think about it but it doesn’t matter. It could be your first date or your tenth. Her touch ignites a new found manliness and you are smitten times ten. She is the epitome of a girl friend experience, you are sure.

A natural hip sway

The night is young but those intimate moments are timeless as she breaks
away from the sofa amidst soft music and steamy kisses to fetch more fruit and wine. You promise yourself to commit the scene to memory as her tight and shapely posterior sway their way to the mini bar. But she is not trying to tempt you at this point. Her mannerism is pure and natural and that is what sends you over the edge!

City Girls believes that details matter

Priceless little nuances in life always make a difference. They are not necessarily those moments that we describe with words but the ones that underscore our experiences with details that words cannot describe. Hobbyists who engage with independent escorts who live the girlfriend experience can expect to be showered with irresistible charms! That’s what we are here for.

How to Detect Chemistry

Ever fantasized about an independent escort who completes you? She makes you feel like a million bucks not to mention a GQ model. Beyond the obvious, there are many different types of chemistry. They don’t always jump out and grab you unless you know what to look for.

Storybook style sexual chemistry

Sort of a temporary chemistry, sexual chemistry is also known as lust and can be profound but dissipate soon after an encounter. Don’t get me wrong. Great sex can intensely satisfy that physical urge. While it might not seem like much, sharing a magnetic physical attraction with someone can be quite fulfilling and even lead to genuine feelings over time, in the right situation. Physical chemistry is not possessive and can be felt toward more than one person at a time. Sexual chemistry can also trigger that pleasure center in the brain that produces dopamine.

Touchy-feely comfort zone

Have you ever met an independent escort with whom you have an incredible repoire where you can totally be you? She is the kind of lady whom you feel as though you’ve known forever, almost like you are talking to yourself. While she may offer the girlfriend experience, it goes way beyond that. It feels as though the two of you are one, the sort of chemistry that can lead to passion that you’ve never known!

Laughter is nature’s best medicine

Laughter breaks boundaries, warms moods and ignites attraction. Just imagine that you have had a bad day. You have a date planned with an independent escort and hope that it goes smoothly and enjoyably. Her personality is light and witty and soon the two of you find yourselves smiling and laughing and having fun. Laughter is an incredible chemistry that can intensify attraction.

She’s the yin and you’re the yang

Often, a hobbyist seeks the company of an independent escort who compliments his good parts or masks his flaws. While a hobbyist and an independent escort may differ in looks, style and/or personality, it is such contrasts that trigger powerful chemistry causing them to feel like well-rounded people. Further, when the two share common interests on any level, a bond is created. Just imagine!

City Girls want you to have it all!

The next time you schedule an engagement with an independent escort, having an awareness of the different types of chemistry will only serve to enhance your time together. Whether your experience is an abbreviated moment in time, an overnight extravaganza or an ongoing tryst, knowing what signs to look for in your chemistry will add a magical touch to your date.

Are You Getting Attached to Your Escort?

Dating an escort involves casual feelings that should remain light while resisting the emotional realm. But for some hobbyists, that is exactly what happens. What is a gentleman to do when he finds himself desiring to convert his escort into a girlfriend?

You are dating an independent escort, paying for her time to entertain you. The intimacy is phenomenal and you’ve never met another woman quite like her. Moreover, she adores you and the chemistry is electric. You float on cloud nine for days following an encounter with a smile from ear to ear pasted on your face. Thoughts wander into a possible relationship with your escort. Let me pinch you back into reality. Have your forgotten the rules of conduct, boundaries associated with the hobby? Though you have obviously struck a repoire with a goddess of perfection, let’s not forget the premise upon which you made her acquaintance. As a hobbyist, you are paying her for her time to engage you. Hang on to your heart, dear fella. This is a business transaction!

She’s a great listener but does she have long term feelings for you?

Many independent escorts are superbly blessed with genuine talent to sweep a man off his hobbyist feet. She is friend, lover, model and psychologist all brilliantly wrapped in one irresistible package. What man with two heads could deny her? She lavishes you with smoldering attention; she understands and does not judge you. As a man, you feel so open and free that you can tell her just about anything knowing that your words and emotions will be well-received. Somewhere along the way, your heart takes on a mind of its own and fantasy gets confused with reality. You’ve been swept away. In short, you’re a goner. Your focus as a hobbyist is obscured and you long for her to have feelings for you. This is the point where sirens sound and red flags fly up. My dear fellow, you will have lost it entirely and set yourself up for a catastrophic fall flat on your bum for may I remind you that she is a paid escort, not a voluntary partner.

You think of her as your girlfriend

The girlfriend experience is the most sought after of all provider encounters because such engagements are profoundly intimate. However, if as a hobbyist you find her dwelling in your thoughts at all hours of the day and night, chances are that you have fallen off the proverbial deep end of escort dating into a sea of danger. While she may provide you with a superbly authentic girlfriend experience, she is not your girlfriend. Your date begins when you meet her and ends when you say goodbye. Any contact in between taken to the extreme could at any point be considered borderline psycho and finish the otherwise fantastic connection that was forged with your independent escort. Hang on to your huevos and remember that the operative word here is ‘[girlfriend] experience’!

You want to rescue her from her lifestyle as an escort

Jesus Christ is considered a savior in religious circles. You are not he. No matter how colorful her background, your escort made a conscious decision to become an independent escort. Many escorts truly enjoy what they do to which hobbyists can attest. Desiring to ‘save’ one from her job as a professional entertainer and escort is venturing into unchartered territory known as drama. Keep intact the reasons why you are seeing your escort and remain within those boundaries.

What is the norm?

There are those uncommon relationships whether married or committed in which the female is an independent escort or the couple engages in an open agreement that involves swinging. We have also heard stories of escorts who fall in love with clients and retire into wedlock. Statistically speaking, I doubt that is the norm. The best modus operandi is to thoroughly enjoy the experience with your escort while maintaining a separate day-to-day life. If you find the two mingling, take a deep breath and a big step back to regain your focus. Dating an escort is an arranged engagement. It is best to keep it that way.