When a dating engagement is carefully measured, considering all aspects of compatibility, the stage is set for explosive chemistry. Such is the scenario when a hobbyist pursues the company of a companion or courtesan who excels in the girl friend experience. Most likely, he is not looking for permanent love. But if he seeks emotional and/or psychological fulfillment or restoration from loneliness, his heart becomes vulnerable. Factor in his escort’s physical splendor and charismatic personality and he becomes a bulls eye target for amour.
While this may appear as a scary question due to the nature of her work as a companion, what man really knows the difference in the beginning of any love relationship? Romance and matters of the heart involve powerfully blinding emotions that can skew the good judgment of anyone.
Is it really love or just infatuation?
There are no guarantees in any relationship and if there were, insurance companies would bank! There are men and women alike who come from multiple divorces, dysfunctional families, broken homes and even abusive backgrounds. Someone, please reveal the ideal formula for a marriage that does not end. Even childhood sweethearts with storybook families end up divorced. Who is to say that the hobbyist/escort romance cannot tie the knot and prevail indefinitely?
Is he headed down the sugar daddy path?
There is a chance that if she stops working in order to devote her time exclusively to her man and their relationship, her income will vanish. Both parties must check within themselves for genuineness of their involvement. Further, supporting a partner is a financial and emotional responsibility (regardless of his net worth) which can burden the relationship if not handled openly and with clear intent. However, if hobbyist turned fiancé accepts his role as main breadwinner, they are in love and escort turned future wife agree, then it is not a sugar relationship.
Will she continue working as an independent escort if they marry?
Now here is an interesting twist that defies all convention. Admittedly, there are those marriages in which an escort remains same with knowledge and acceptance of her husband. Are they swingers? Do they have children? Does he fully accept what she does for a living? Personally, I do not know what the divorce rate is of such a unique demographic, but who cares? Even the most conservative couples divorce for a myriad of reasons. Often when an escorting couple divorces, the split is caused by reasons indirectly related to the act of escorting itself.
Will she sign an annulment?
Doing so may be considered a true test of love. While I understand how a gentleman would want to protect his assets, especially if he has an x-wife who took him to the cleaners during the divorce process, many women find the proposition offensive. Truthfully, two people should marry for nothing but love and a balanced ability of both parties to support each other spiritually, mindfully and psychologically. But that is not the way the world works for most.
Proceed with caution and wisdom
Perhaps the most difficult challenge for the hobbyist who wants to marry his escort is honoring the deepest corners of his integrity. He should remain clear about his true intentions with a sharp eye focused on the fate of his future. In the end, both parties should remember that despite what conventional society has to say, what do they know? If there was a perfect formula for marriage then no one would be divorced.
With boundless kisses, Chloe xoxo