The sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship takes the hobbyist/escort interaction to a more integrated level. As a hobbyist, you may not intend to secure an ongoing girlfriend arrangement and it just happens naturally. Or, you may go all out and profile your objective on various sugar websites.
Perhaps you are a man who seeks a ‘bargain’ with an escort to see her for a fixed amount of time on a consistent basis on a discounted consideration structure. Let us explore the different types of sugar babies within the United States.
Your basic, several-sugar-daddy sugar baby
There are companions who make it their goal to date several sugar daddies to achieve an elevated lifestyle, meet the expenses of their college educations or support their families. For these ladies, it’s all about the bottom line, a numbers game. How much are you as a sugar daddy willing to compensate her for her company? Her goal is to take on as many sugar daddies as she is able to spend time with while simultaneously meeting her income needs.
The non sugar baby
This lady is more of a courtesan who will never refer to herself as a sugar baby. She is the sophisticated lady whom by passers quietly wonder if she is a kept woman but will never verbalize it because she is simply too classy and demure. She runs in elite circles, is smart and educated with a phenomenal figure, a chic, expensive wardrobe that whispers of sensuality and a presence that will make any man desirous of her. She is the lady who keeps tight, highly confidentialrelationships with men of stature. She is a lovely confidante who cultivates a deeply influential connection that far surpasses what these men have with their own wives.
The organic sugar baby
She is a natural born entertainer who loves her profession. She has a knack for deep, spiritual connections and genuinely revels in the glamour, respect and attention bestowed upon her by gentlemen friends. Her clients do not refer to themselves as sugar daddies but they are looking to spend sincere time with a lady whom they feel has it all. Clear in their intentions, they seek her out, become enamored with her and naturally fall into the sugar daddy pattern. Her work comes easy for her and she is good. She is acutely aware of her charms, intellect and radiant personality the sum of which manifests an air of charisma that radiates about her. This rather mysterious aura acts as a magnet that attracts the esteemed gentleman who falls in an amorous state with her. She embodies perfection but could also be the girl next door, unsuspecting in her role as a sugar baby. In short, you would never guess.
Relationships of all sorts
Romance comes in all shapes and sizes. Marriage and conventional relationships are the two most common types that are talked about and accepted in the mainstream. Busy beneath the surface of our society are other types of involvement not talked about. These gentlemen (and even ladies) are driven by needs and desires burning for fulfillment to the degree that they seek and find their sugar babies. The inner workings of these relationships are transparent and confidential, rarely publicized and hardly ever recognized by the average, ignorant eye.
The energy between a man and two women can be delicate, especially when the woman is his wife. If you as a couples escort have been approached to spend time with a married couple, City Girls believes that paying careful attention to details and subtle nuances will result in a successful encounter. Let’s explore a few:
When it comes to a trio, the psychological impact that beauty and appearance make on a woman can be quite different than the impact they have on a man. It is your job to ‘read’ your new friends to stay in control of the situation by keeping them comfortable and at ease with you. They contacted you because they found you quite attractive. Most likely, the husband will orchestrate the encounter. When the three of you finally meet, your appearance will make a split second impression. The first words that fall from your mouth will pretty much seal that impression. Never ‘out dress’ or ‘outdo’ the wife. It’s a good idea to communicate with the couple prior to your meeting to determine if the engagement is a good fit (you want positive memories to resound long after your engagement). In doing so, you will gain a good sense of what to wear and how to present yourself, thereby matching the energy of the wife. If not handled elegantly, beauty becomes a liability whereas you’ve always felt it to be an asset. Don’t leave your psychology hat at home! Read on…
Who calls the [emotional] shots?
While this may be a generalization, usually it’s the wife. If the husband is smart, he’ll hang on to his knickers, sit back and allow the two of you to get comfortable. Play into her hands and get on her good side immediately. Get to know her. When she feels in control of the situation, all three will ease into harmony.
Bonding with the wife
As an independent escort, you are a professional entertainer. Whether you go for a walk in the park, attend an affluent social event or meet for cocktails in the intimate setting of a private suite, it is your job to quickly assess and constantly monitor the emotional and psychological dispositions of your clients. On the outside, you are approachable, easy to talk to and emanate a sense of safety about your presence. On the inside, your brain is a machine working a mile a minute. What is she thinking? How is her body language? You can be sure she has summed you up in the first minutes of your meeting. What does she want and need from you? Is she nervous? Does she want you all to herself or did her husband persuade her? The eyes in the back of your head are watching the husband’s behavior all the while. Once you have made these realizations, you can proceed to bond with her. Find her innermost beauty and essence and become best friends if only for the moment. Like her. Win over the wife and you’ve already succeeded. Carry it through to the end of your date and you’ve got repeat clients.
Achieving harmony in the trio
It is critical to pay close attention to the dynamic between you as an escort and the energy that’s crackling between the husband and wife as a couple. It is a balancing act equivalent to juggling 4 beach balls. Always be alert and never let your persona falter. They want you to transform them to another realm not present in their marriage. They are relying on you and despite how things may appear, it is your professional responsibility to take them there and give them the times of their lives.
Make them fall in love with you
When you have mastered your beauty to work to your advantage, determined who the leader in the relationship is, bonded with the wife and achieved harmony between the three of you, this couple who are your clients will fall in love with you. They will reminisce and fantasize about the experience long after the occasion. Your success as an independent escort entertaining a married couple then becomes a magical potion that will stimulate the quality of their marriage.
City Girls believes that the successful escort is one who spends time with her clients with the intention of turning them into long term clients
That is one of the secrets of increasing the stability of your job. When you have repeat clients your time is freed to focus on making new friends. Isn’t that what it’s all about?
“Principles? But I’m only an escort!” may be your first thought. The truth is that escorting is a real job just like any other whether you are full or part time. At City Girls, when you take your business seriously and make the most of your skills you will be successful. Recognizing and following a basic set of standards can get you there.
Making the mental break – City Girls understands the importance that psychologically you must be able to handle being an escort. If you think you cannot, it’s best to find another job. You must be able to maintain an emotional separation between being intimate with men whom you’ve never met before and your personal life. Escorting is a glamorous and exciting job that can reward you richly. But there will be days when you don’t feel like doing your job as an escort. Maybe it’s that time of the month and you have the blues. Those are precisely the types of moments that will challenge you emotionally and you won’t want to work. However, you must be able to put on your game face and entertain your date because escorting is after all your job and you work to make a living. Never mix your personal life with your business life. As an escort, your date is your client and no matter how charming and persuasive he seems he is really not paying for your time to hear about what a rough week you had or that your son needs braces. He is there with you to be entertained and to enjoy what you do best. Even though he may appear interested in your personal life, accept it as flattery and button your lip. Be smart and always resist the urge to share any details about your private affairs.
How to be a good conversationalist – The intellectual disposition of your client may be unknown until the moment you make his acquaintance. Are you prepared to talk about most anything? Becoming a good conversationalist is really not as scary as it may sound. With a little bit of preparation (which can be really fun in the process!) you can make your job much easier by expanding your flexibility to talk about most subjects especially if you are attracted toupscale clients. Stay on top of current events by watching the daily news (Fox News and CNN News will give you a well-rounded scope) and browsing a variety of magazines (Forbes, People, Vogue, Wall Street Journal, The Economist, The New Yorker, Conde Nast Traveler are just a few). This doesn’t mean that you should read every publication cover to cover and you could go into the poor house subscribing to all of them. Make a habit of going to the book store or library, grab a latte and have some fun browsing headlines and breezing through a few articles. You’ll be surprised how much knowledge you’ll pick up in a short period of time. And it’s a great way to expand your communication if English is your second language!
Using humor to your advantage – A small dose of wit will warm any situation. This doesn’t mean that you must be a comedienne or feel forced to deliver contrived jokes or always be funny. But when you are comfortable with yourself and the situation, your body and job, a light, whimsical attitude will take over and lend a sense of ease to the environment.
Taking care of your physical being – Your body is your temple. City Girls believes in taking great care of one of your greatest assets – you! Beautiful women come in many shapes and sizes. You don’t have to be as skinny as a pencil to qualify as gorgeous and desirable. Most important is to maintain your body to the best of its ability with exercise, a healthy diet, vitamins, supplements and spa treatments (or simply a good exfoliant and moisturizer at home). It shows when a woman takes care of her physical appearance. Soft, supple skin is a huge asset. Drink lots of water every day and go easy on salt and alcohol especially the day before a date. City Girls is a strong advocate of regular physical examinations to stay on top of your health when it comes to escorting. If you don’t have private health insurance, locate a good health care center in your area. Meet the doctors or registered nurses who will attend you. Since you will be visiting your caregiver regularly, make sure that you are comfortable seeing this doctor or nurse as he or she may assume that you are an escort (some escorts are comfortable disclosing within the privacy of the doctor/patient relationship that they escort for a living). The time to find a good caregiver is not when you need to go. Do your research as soon as possible. Ask other escorts in your area for referrals.
What about family? There are escortswho openly share with their families what they do for a living. Those instances are uncommon. Escorting makes you lead a secret life guided by discretion. Some ladies escort well into their forties (and even some into their fifties). However, it is more common thatescorts retire at a much younger age and take on another career. Think about the impact on your family if you feel compelled to tell them about your glamorous job as an escort. They may not understand all of the benefits as escorting is still conventionally unaccepted and even considered taboo by most of society. You won’t be escorting forever but the notion that you did could make an adverse impact on your family that could cost you indefinitely. City Girls says think twice before you publicize your secret life.
Protecting your privacy – You will meet clients who adore you, worship the ground you walk on. This is flattery at its finest. Soak it up and allow it to reinforce your confidence as anescort. But the buck stops there. As an escort you are an entertainer, a master at creating an illusion of happiness which is why you get paid good money. Resist the temptation to divulge your private phone number, home address, details about your day job, names and locations of relatives and children. By all means, never give out your social security number! Creating a persona is the first step in building a shroud of protective privacy around your personal life. While you will build deep, intimate friendships with some clients, stay in control and always be able to walk away from your job as an escort and go back to the privacy and sanctity of your private life.
City Girls maintains a high standard of ethics required to be met by its Club Members and VIP Members. In doing so, an environment of safety and professionalism is automatically created. In this regard, we have no reservations looking out for our members with honest, upfront advice and knowledge about what escorting really entails. It is this sense of comradery that draws our Club Members to join the family. If you want to take your business as an independent escort to the next level backed by the professional support that you need to get there, join City Girls. You won’t regret it.