When a Hobbyist Wants to Marry an Escort

When a dating engagement is carefully measured, considering all aspects of compatibility, the stage is set for explosive chemistry. Such is the scenario when a hobbyist pursues the company of a companion or courtesan who excels in the girl friend experience. Most likely, he is not looking for permanent love. But if he seeks emotional and/or psychological fulfillment or restoration from loneliness, his heart becomes vulnerable. Factor in his escort’s physical splendor and charismatic personality and he becomes a bulls eye target for amour.

hobbyist marrying an escort

While this may appear as a scary question due to the nature of her work as a companion, what man really knows the difference in the beginning of any love relationship? Romance and matters of the heart involve powerfully blinding emotions that can skew the good judgment of anyone.

Is it really love or just infatuation?

There are no guarantees in any relationship and if there were, insurance companies would bank! There are men and women alike who come from multiple divorces, dysfunctional families, broken homes and even abusive backgrounds. Someone, please reveal the ideal formula for a marriage that does not end. Even childhood sweethearts with storybook families end up divorced. Who is to say that the hobbyist/escort romance cannot tie the knot and prevail indefinitely?

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Is he headed down the sugar daddy path?

There is a chance that if she stops working in order to devote her time exclusively to her man and their relationship, her income will vanish. Both parties must check within themselves for genuineness of their involvement. Further, supporting a partner is a financial and emotional responsibility (regardless of his net worth) which can burden the relationship if not handled openly and with clear intent. However, if hobbyist turned fiancé accepts his role as main breadwinner, they are in love and escort turned future wife agree, then it is not a sugar relationship.


Will she continue working as an independent escort if they marry?

Now here is an interesting twist that defies all convention. Admittedly, there are those marriages in which an escort remains same with knowledge and acceptance of her husband. Are they swingers? Do they have children? Does he fully accept what she does for a living? Personally, I do not know what the divorce rate is of such a unique demographic, but who cares? Even the most conservative couples divorce for a myriad of reasons. Often when an escorting couple divorces, the split is caused by reasons indirectly related to the act of escorting itself.

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Will she sign an annulment?

Doing so may be considered a true test of love. While I understand how a gentleman would want to protect his assets, especially if he has an x-wife who took him to the cleaners during the divorce process, many women find the proposition offensive. Truthfully, two people should marry for nothing but love and a balanced ability of both parties to support each other spiritually, mindfully and psychologically. But that is not the way the world works for most.

Proceed with caution and wisdom

Perhaps the most difficult challenge for the hobbyist who wants to marry his escort is honoring the deepest corners of his integrity. He should remain clear about his true intentions with a sharp eye focused on the fate of his future. In the end, both parties should remember that despite what conventional society has to say, what do they know? If there was a perfect formula for marriage then no one would be divorced.

With boundless kisses, Chloe xoxo

How to Stay Calm on Your First Date

Scheduling time with an exceptionally beautiful lady does not preclude a gentleman from feeling nervous. The notion of time spent with such a stunning goddess can hold him back. His stomach may churn if for nothing more than excitement of the unknown. Concerns about making a good first impression on a first date, fear of rejection or even performance anxiety can be a bit intimidating.

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If you are a hobbyist reading these words, how do you combat ‘gorgeous date anxiety’? We spoke to a few of our top VIP members and this is what we summarized:

Focus on your date

Listen to what you date talks about. Pay attention to her words, body language (well, this one may be obvious), smile and eye contact. Communicate with her. Stay outside of yourself and downplay internal reactions. In other words, try not to get stuck on thoughts or opinions. Make an effort to absorb what she talks about.

Optimistic Word Cloud Concept in red caps with great terms such as hopeful, upbeat, happy and more.
Optimistic Word Cloud Concept in red caps with great terms such as hopeful, upbeat, happy and more.

Be open minded and optimistic

Companions come from all walks of life. Focus on the positive possibilities of your date by suspending judgment and not dwelling on trivial details. Set aside personal assumptions, beliefs and thoughts and allow yourself to enjoy the moment! Be optimistic and open. As a result, you will notice a warm interaction, perhaps exchange a few jokes and opinions.

Identify the positives and opportunities

Independent escorts (and even random strangers) have something unique and interesting from which we can learn. Keep an open mind and take an interest in understanding who she is and where she is coming from.

Practice curiosity

It will remove you from your head and help see the positive aspects of your encounter. You will feel more social, enjoy better conversations and get to know your date just a bit more. Look for ways that will help the two of you connect. The act of exchanging perspectives, experiences and opinions can be a great segway to intimacy especially if you are the nervous type. Identifying a sense of familiarity can go a long way in breaking the ice and lead to a fabulous time together.

Romantic egg couple
Romantic egg couple

Keep in light and flirty

Focus on happy topics of conversation and avoid talking about dramatic, traumatic or negative events. However, if you are a gentleman seeking emotional fulfillment through a true girl friend experience, you may be more inclined to approach deeper subjects and needs. If you sense chemistry, chances are that you will see her again. You can then feel more at ease taking the time to establish a sense of familiarity during your first engagement. Then, your second date will be better than ever! The goal is to be ‘growth oriented’, to play and have both people enjoy time spent together.

Diminish worry and anxiety

No matter the scenario, dating a beautiful escort can be riveting at best, nerve racking at worst. Your encounter should be beneficial, enjoyable and memorable. Beyond the obvious, finding the fun in your date can enrich your experience by volumes! When both hobbyist and independent escort connect, there are no limits to gratification.

Love, Chloe xoxo

Quieting Holiday Loneliness with a GFE

Amidst happy lovers bundled arm in arm, Christmas carols resonating throughout the city and holiday shoppers bustling at the mall quietly mingle the lonely souls of many hobbyists

They show us what they want us to see: smiling faces, secure demeanors and professional composure. Yet beneath the surface dwells a state of unfulfillment in their homes. They experience lack of love and intimacy in dormant marriages that have been frozen for years. These hobbyists coexist with their wives in a barren world of monotony, mortgage payments and facades of false happiness. On a darker side, their marriages suffer from arguments or worse, fighting, separation and divorce.

Not all hobbyists are necessarily out to turn a few tricks or on a more perverse note take advantage of women as independent escorts

There are a lot of good men (whether single or not) who dabble in the demimonde of adult entertainment out of yearning for genuine companionship that surpasses the mere physical aspect associated with escorts. Herein lies the reality that shatters the stigma attached to independent escorting. These men have a hunger to satisfy their needs for closeness and understanding in a loving and non judgmental environment offered by gorgeous companions who believe in the girl friend experience.

Silhouette of kissing girl and guy
Silhouette of kissing girl and guy

What exactly is the girlfriend experience?

It means different things to different people. The term has evolved since its origin to the point that some independent escorts do not want to be associated with the acronym or any other label that might pool them with all the rest. Many escorts use it as a marketing tool while others genuinely offer the girlfriend experience. The modern day, successful GFE possesses sophisticated, psychological insight and a charismatic talent for attracting and bonding with her clients. Often times, hobbyist and companion become close friends, blurring the lines between paid companionship and true camaraderie.

When such a relationship reaches this heightened level of intimate stability, it may stabilize into what is known as a sugar daddy/sugar baby arrangement or simply an ongoing tryst.

All alone on Christmas Eve

It doesn’t have to be this way. A hobbyist or gentleman who does not have a conventional girlfriend, close friends or family does not have to suffer in silence with an aching heart during the most sentimental time of year. Whether he chooses to spend one hour with a smoking hot bombshell or a weekend with a tender soul blessed with understanding and total femininity, there are companions out there eager to become the period at the end of his sentence. It is just a matter of defining who she is and finding her.

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Check list. Vector illustration EPS version 8.

Make a list and check it twice

If a man wanted to purchase a car, he would eventually develop a ‘needs list’ of the features that the automobile should contain after looking at so many. Before he made the purchase, he would know exactly what he wanted. Do your homework. Start by making a list on paper of the features that define the woman who best suits your personality, needs and desires. Shop around. Read biographies. Look at photos. Get a feel for her style. Inquire with a few (without wasting their time) to get a sense of chemistry. If it fits the budget, one or two pre-requisite dates are highly recommended before spending significant holiday time with a lady to find out the hard way that the two of you may not be suited for each other.

New Year’s Eve is just around the bend

We all know that life slows down to a crawl this time of year. Many ladies are spending time with family and may not be available. Connecting with an independent escort whom you really like is a task that should be pursued well in advance before the actual holiday arrives. Who knows? The two of you might actually take a trip together to ring in the New Year.

Many kisses, Chloe xoxo

Reflections of a Hobbyist

The creed of pleasure – We invite seekers of the sweet life for we represent the pinnacle of happiness. The hobbyist who follows his bliss is the one who opens sensual doors that lead to enthralling companionship. Groundbreaking intimacy is experienced by the gentleman who opens his mind, body and soul to the fervent nuances bestowed upon him by a bewitching girlfriend.

Philosophy laid the conceptual groundwork for principles and values that shaped the possibility of world peace – democracy, human rights, justice and equality. For centuries, philosophy has opened doors for new concepts and ideas and creativity across global cultures. World Philosophy Day is a United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization (UNESCO) initiative created in 2002 and celebrated every November. It draws people around the world to engage in reflection on contemporary issues. We have our own set of beliefs here at City Girls that we would like to share with our readers, namely our VIP friends and hobbyist and independent escort – club member.

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A front black car

Living the sensuous lifestyle

Such a gentleman knows that his faculties will spiral to heightened levels of ecstasy on a regular basis whenever he revels in the ethereal presence of a lovely, independent escort. He becomes the beneficiary of her love affair with life, lust and spirituality. In turn, he learns to worship her body and what it can do to his. This amplified standard of living is an addiction of sorts, much like the compulsion of driving a luxury automobile or craving of fine cuisine and vintage wine.

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vip member

Ethos of a VIP member

Put quite simply, these gentlemen set the gold standard of hobbying. In exchange, they expect the epitome of independent escorts who are made of erotic dreams hallowing them with pure gratification. Such a man knows that gentility is the cornerstone of character that brings to life all of the juicy confections offered by his independent escort. He believes that anything less than refined conduct will smolder the crackling chemistry that he seeks with his companion.

What are our moral beliefs?

In order to maintain the platinum level of pleasure that is shared between devoted hobbyists and committed companions, we abide by a strict standard of excellence. We care about our VIP members and independent escorts from the first moment we connect right down to the last letter that is typed on our website. Delicious memories that linger in the diary of the mind are intangible bonuses that we strive to exalt upon our members. When this occurs, the dating process has been sanctified and everyone is happy!

Love, Chloe xoxo

How to Detect Chemistry

Ever fantasized about an independent escort who completes you? She makes you feel like a million bucks not to mention a GQ model. Beyond the obvious, there are many different types of chemistry. They don’t always jump out and grab you unless you know what to look for.

Storybook style sexual chemistry

Sort of a temporary chemistry, sexual chemistry is also known as lust and can be profound but dissipate soon after an encounter. Don’t get me wrong. Great sex can intensely satisfy that physical urge. While it might not seem like much, sharing a magnetic physical attraction with someone can be quite fulfilling and even lead to genuine feelings over time, in the right situation. Physical chemistry is not possessive and can be felt toward more than one person at a time. Sexual chemistry can also trigger that pleasure center in the brain that produces dopamine.

Touchy-feely comfort zone

Have you ever met an independent escort with whom you have an incredible repoire where you can totally be you? She is the kind of lady whom you feel as though you’ve known forever, almost like you are talking to yourself. While she may offer the girlfriend experience, it goes way beyond that. It feels as though the two of you are one, the sort of chemistry that can lead to passion that you’ve never known!

Laughter is nature’s best medicine

Laughter breaks boundaries, warms moods and ignites attraction. Just imagine that you have had a bad day. You have a date planned with an independent escort and hope that it goes smoothly and enjoyably. Her personality is light and witty and soon the two of you find yourselves smiling and laughing and having fun. Laughter is an incredible chemistry that can intensify attraction.

She’s the yin and you’re the yang

Often, a hobbyist seeks the company of an independent escort who compliments his good parts or masks his flaws. While a hobbyist and an independent escort may differ in looks, style and/or personality, it is such contrasts that trigger powerful chemistry causing them to feel like well-rounded people. Further, when the two share common interests on any level, a bond is created. Just imagine!

City Girls want you to have it all!

The next time you schedule an engagement with an independent escort, having an awareness of the different types of chemistry will only serve to enhance your time together. Whether your experience is an abbreviated moment in time, an overnight extravaganza or an ongoing tryst, knowing what signs to look for in your chemistry will add a magical touch to your date.

How to Smell Seductive on Your Date

How important is scent to a woman? Well. Let me tell you, lovers. A captivating scent can make the difference between hitting a home run with an escort and just getting to first base!

Don’t go overboard, guys. Smelling seductive on a date is a fine blend between your pheromones shining through and triggering desire with scent. Leave your lover wanting more!

Taking a shower is super sexy

While this topic may sound redundant to many hobbyists (oh Chloe! We’ve all heard this a thousand times), I guarantee that by the end of this article, you will have a new perspective on how to be sexy! Being attractive is not limited only to an escort. Start by taking a nice, hot shower and wash with a neutral soap or body wash that is not scented. When you are all finished, your body will be a fresh palate upon which you will dab your scent in places that matter.

Use a neutral deodorant

I hate to say it but the only thing worse than a hobbyist that reeks of body odor is one that smells of a pungent, repulsive deodorant. Using an unscented deodorant/antiperspirant combo works great eliminating bacterial odors. If you tend to sweat or perspire a lot, your doctor can prescribe something stronger.

Do not select just any cologne!

Visit a reputable store that excels in customer service and a broad selection of fragrances such as Nordstrom. For those hobbyists comfortable enough with their companions to join them go for it! It always helps to get your partner’s input. The best time to shop is in the morning when your body chemistry is fresh and your sense of smell uncluttered by a day’s worth of contamination by smog, exhaust, restaurants and the like. Before you hit the stores, decide on a few adjectives that best describe your personal style and the scent you would like to exude. Personally, I always select a fragrance that is spicy and earthy. Whether as a hobbyist your style is musky, sweet, grassy or earthy, your description will eliminate many choices and make the clerk’s life much easier! I highly recommend spending a bit more and purchasing a high end fragrance. They are quite pure, more unique and last much longer! An exotic fragrance is a sex magnet for every escort. I do not lie!

How to apply your scent

Is just as important as what scent you select. It is critical not to ‘drown’ yourself. Immediately following your shower when the skin is damp, dab your cologne in target areas. Keep in mind where your companion’s lips may be drawn and do not go there! While an intoxicating scent can be a powerful aphrodisiac, tasting it can be repulsive. Some good areas include behind the ears, the backs of the knees, wrists and a little on the chest. Be cautious about applying or spraying cologne on to your clothing as many scents can stain.

Wear clothing that doesn’t suffocate

Don’t spoil it all by wearing garments that do not breathe. Whether you live in a hot, cold or humid climate, threads matter. For all you hobbyist gents who think that I’m getting complicated, hold onto your shorts! Once you get this knowledge under your belt, your sensual life will become much easier. Cotton blends are the best, especially if your clothing is clingy. Synthetic blends such as polyester do not breathe and may actually promote perspiration. If you live in a cold climate layer your clothing. If you live in a warm climate, beware of linen shirts as they are suckers for [body odor] stain.

Fresh breath is just as important as wearing an expensive cologne

Two words for every hobbyist and every independent escort: avoid garlic. While you may appear like a Greek god, sport deep pockets and drive a car fueled with testosterone, the bubble is sure to burst if your breath smells like a culinary sewer. For any escort, there is simply no greater turn off next to body odor and rudeness for that matter. Obviously, you must adapt a certain level of awareness as it pertains to your diet when considering fresh breath that actually attracts your companion. If the garlic and onions somehow find their way into your diet due to a company dinner, have on hand some good breath supplements which you can pop immediately following that decadent meal (orderable online or purchasable at your local health food store). Fortified with parsley and other effective ingredients, they are sure to do the trick and eradicate that foul breath. Prior to your date, brush well and gargle with mouthwash. Carry a traveler’s pack in your car for spontaneous use. Avoid the following ingredients on your date: garlic, onions and any cuisine that is heavily spiced. Consume plenty of water during your date with your companion. Simply put, smoking is a no no! Ugh. Yuck. Gross.

City Girls wants you to smell like success

Where can hobbyists find lessons in etiquette? Right here at City Girls! If your masculinity is beating at your chest, quell that manly whisper and know that we care about the quality of your love life. Follow our words of wisdom and you will thank us!

The Confident Hobbyist

Sometimes even the most confident man can be painfully shy. Couple that with being a worrier and the combination spells stress! How does a hobbyist overcome this poisonous combination when he has a beautiful, head-turning escort waiting for his arrival in less than two hours?

Since you deserve to enjoy your time together, we at City Girls personally spoke to several of our lovely ladies and got their feedback. Below is real advice from amazing girlfriends who have experienced firsthand helping their hobbyist friends overcome shyness and increase their confidence in the dating realm.

Truly relaxing will solve half the battle

I know. You’ve heard it a million times. But it’s true. Calming and quieting the mind promote relaxation which in turn dissolves stress and anxiety associated with shyness or lack of confidence. Many of our independent escorts practice yoga on a regular basis and this is what they have shared. While you may not even be able to touch your toes, you do know how to breathe and this is the key. Before leaving for your date, sit down in a quiet room in a relaxed position with the television, radio and cell phone off and out of reach. Close your eyes and focus on long, deep breaths. The second your mind runs away (and this will be the challenge), gently direct your thoughts back to your breath as you slowly inhale and exhale. Do this for about ten minutes or as long as you can. If you’ve got an alarm clock on your cell phone, set it. That way you won’t have to wonder how long you’ve been sitting there breathing. Ten minutes might seem like an eternity if you’re new to this form of meditation. Try.

Dressing and smelling well are major confidence boosters

Don’t get complacent about your wardrobe or the senses. Women love a well-dressed man and that is the overwhelming consensus with all of our City Girlsindependent escorts. This doesn’t mean that you need to blow off $2,000 at Gucci for a pair of loafers and a tie (unless you want to, of course). A neatly dressed, stylish look with well-coordinated accessories will get you bonus points with any escort. If your shirt or pants are baggy and ill-fitting, get them tailored. If your shoes are scuffed or worn, either have them professionally polished or invest in a new pair. Most of all, dress for your date in an ensemble that is known to compliment your looks. If you are stressing because you don’t have a clue about fashion go to the men’s department in Nordstrom and seek the assistance of a *female* employee. Nordstrom has a reputation for stellar customer service. Next stop: the perfume counter. Forget about the cheapy stuff. Ugh. If you want to sign up for charisma, a compelling perfume on a man is a major aphrodisiac for a woman. There are some incredible scents on the market for men. The high end fragrances are pure and resonate so that the scent doesn’t fade. Our ladies guarantee they will be all over their men who smell like heaven, lust and a million bucks all rolled into one!

Bag the physical looks

That’s right. Many of our companions consider looks secondary to all else when it comes to compatibility. That’s just how we women are. In fact, many ladies don’t want their men to be too good looking (that’s subjective, of course). When you are dressed well, scented like the elixir of all mankind and relaxed, you will be transformed into the poster child for the most wanted hobbyist.

Real flattery will get you everywhere

Since all of our independent escorts work hard at maintaining their beauty and physique, most are accustomed to receiving compliments. But flattery goes way beyond, “you look beautiful” or “that dress looks great on you.” It’s about, “that nail polish is a stunning color that goes perfectly with the pink tone of your dress.” Or, “that lipstick really brings out the blue in your eyes. I love it!” Scan your date and make a five-second assessment. You’ll notice those details and paying attention is what any woman really loves. When you deliver a sincere compliment, your date is sure to melt and the ice has been broken! The rest is history and you will be crowned king.

Perhaps your date is shy, too!

Let’s face it. She’s human. Maybe she struggles with shyness though you might not ever know it. Shyness is not a sign that we wear on our backs. In fact, it’s something we try to hide and often blunder in attempting to do so. But it can be painful. The fact is you do not know if she is shy so assume that she may be. Realizing this very real possibility will give you an instant advantage because suddenly you are not alone and will have boosted your confidence by ten notches.

No matter what, chemistry must prevail

At City Girls, we have to acknowledge that the psychology behind dating is a delicate balance. No matter how hard you try (or don’t try) and despite all of your concerted efforts to becoming the genteel hobbyist sought after by all independent escorts, if chemistry doesn’t flow, it’s simply not meant to be. And it’s not your fault. It just means that there is another escort waiting in the wings who is right for you and that is what we are here for.

Coping with Rejection

Rejection is a fear as real as the day. Fear is not something you can see and even if you rationalize will always return to haunt you. Fear limits our thoughts, behavior and actions. Fear motivates success and prevents failure. Fear can skew life decisions and ruin relationships. Fear is no joke and we all have it.

The key then becomes managing your fears. City Girls acknowledges the unspoken: you are about to fork out a healthy chunk of change to spend time with an angelic creature screaming perfection and you are afraid of rejection. Well, for goodness sake. Aren’t you the one in control here? She’s depending on your chunk of change to pay this month’s rent. While that may be true, fear chuckles and whispers, “Maybe you’re not good enough for her”. Ouch. Enter a torrent of eroding thoughts, the co-conspirators of fear and you’re in need of a double martini before your date (even if you don’t drink martinis). Relax. Take a deep breath. There are instantaneous and very effective ways of dealing with fear and putting it in its place. Let’s talk:

Losing Approval from others may be the most common fear

When balanced, fear of rejection can actually work in your favor and even protect you from the fear itself. Too much fear can actually cause you to lose the very thing you fear losing.

Why would she reject me?

You’ve spent quite some time carefully selecting whom you believe to be the ideal lady for you. She’s beautiful, fresh and you imagine that the two of you will hit it off. Oh, but wait. What if she doesn’t like me? What if we have nothing to talk about? Worse, what if I don’t satisfy her? Fear will deceive you into believing that these fears are real. Fear thrives on ‘end of the world’ thinking. When fear has gained your trust, you’ve got the perfect storm, so to speak and you’re finished before you begin. You feel rejected even before you’ve met!

Do not empower fear

Think through these fears and even write them down. That’s called FACING your fears and this action alone will build confidence. You’re a good guy with a good reputation and a lot to offer. Chances are excellent she’s not going to reject you because that’s your fear talking, not her. Establishing this mindset will reduce those insecurities and guess what? You will probably have an awesome time on that date! If and when you date a lady where sparks didn’t fly and the heavens didn’t part to release chariots of fire, it just means that the chemistry wasn’t there. When you abandon that ‘end of world’ thinking, fear is extinguished allowing confidence to flourish. Women find confidence very attractive.

Where do we seek reassurance?

I know what you’re thinking and I’ll admit that it’s true. Insecurity is not a light switch that can be turned off simply because you don’t want it anymore. Fears and insecurities (they’re identical twins) generally took a long time to develop, hiding out in the corners of your mind whispering negative thoughts for many years, even since childhood. Hate to say it, but reassurance doesn’t grow on trees. You simply are not going to get it from another person, a book or a therapist. You get it from you. Keep reading.

There’s nothing to fear but fear itself

Fear is a self-fulfilling prophecy. That is, fear is a false prediction that becomes true because you believe it and therefore it is. City Girls believes this wholeheartedly! Believing that your date might reject you triggers a downfall of other behaviors and emotions such as anxiety, unease, defensiveness and even anger. Approaching your encounter from a positive attitude could cause the situation to turn out completely different!

Think about how you want to feel

Come up for air. Instead of thinking about how you don’t want to feel or how you don’t want your date to see you, think about how you want to feel. Sometimes in life we miss the obvious. It’s easy to do! While this may sound silly, as a child you didn’t learn how to jump rope by telling yourself that you couldn’t do it. You wanted to do it. Think about how you want to be with future dates: relaxed, self-assured, sexy, and confident. Yeah, baby!

Distrust your own opinion

I once watched a Seinfeld episode (my ATF!) in which George (king of insecurities) decided to do the opposite in everything he did in order to attract women. It worked! Part of confidence includes being a little less sure that you know what is going to happen. It’s a kind of release. People who never question their assumptions tend to have a harder time at life. If you are SO sure that your date may not approve of you, then how come that confidence has not won you the lottery? Let go. Relax. Enjoy your date, exactly no knowing what will happen! This is the essence of life.

You have to want it

If you really want to release your fear, you will. But you must want it. Don’t let fear of rejection bury your true desires. Decide that you want to have mind bending experiences with your dates and you will see a transformation in the quality of your encounters. It really is that simple.

While these basic principles are universal, it’s nice to get an occasional reminder to untangle us from the complications of daily life. If as a hobbyist you’ve ever experience a less-than-favorable date, ask yourself why. Often, the surrounding issues go unspoken or you may abandon the dilemma all together, chalking it up as a bad date. City Girls understands these intricacies. We care about our VIP Members and want all of our members to maximize their time together for an unforgettable experience. That’s what we’re here for.

Mechanics of a Good Hobbyist

I was recently talking with a girlfriend who is a very successful companion in Boston, Massachusetts. For the sake of privacy, I shall refer to her as Brit. Brit ranks among the top 100 providers on TER, nationwide.

She has an attractive website and fantastic photos. What’s more, she’s a kind person with a heart of gold – you can tell in the first few minutes of speaking to her. She knows exactly what kind of man she likes. She even uses Google Analytics to track statistics on her website. She is a true professional, independent companion. Yet, she voiced some concerns and frustrations about the type of clientele attracted to her lately. She has been questioning what she might do differently. She will be joining the Club at City Girls. But then we got to talking about the gentlemen in her life and the types that she is attracted to. Together, we came up with many traits that she believes characterize a good hobbyist. Here’s what we discussed:

A gentleman should abide by a companion’s method of contact

Brit is very particular about how a hobbyist contacts her. She will not hesitate to disregard an inquiry from a potential, new client if he sends her a cryptic email instead of completing her contact form. She feels strongly about her preferred method because she is more of a dinner date/overnight type companion and is very selective. Yet, she struggles with this rigidity, wondering if she’s doing the right thing or selling herself short. Recently, she responded to a gentleman who contacted her by email. Hesitant to make the exception, she met the new hobbyist anyway. Reportedly, he was one of the best looking men she has ever met. Ladies, above all, listen to your intuition!

He should appreciate you and desire to see you beyond one date

I think we all know when we are being disrespected or unappreciated. As an independent escort, just because you are a professional entertainer does not mean that you must compromise your ethics or values for the sake of a date. Brit believes that because she has upheld her standards she has attracted a higher quality clientele. Now, one of her midterm goals is to increase the number of repeat clients whom she sees so that she can devote more quality time on a longer term basis. In Brit’s case, less is more.

Look for chemistry and harmony

Brit identified chemistry as one of the most important requirements when deciding whether or not to see a hobbyist. She emphasized that she must like her clients. And by ‘like’ she meant getting along well with them, sharing similar interests and being able to sustain a conversation. She looks for these features in a new hobbyist and feels that in doing so she is more likely to establish a longer term relationship. This also means that Brit turns down potential suitors. As a result, Brit has slowly transformed her business into one abundant with travel to exotic destinations, upscale dinner dates and really, pure enjoyment of life. Way to go, girl!

A man should pay attention to payment protocol and avoid negotiating

If ever a guy wants to ruffle the feminine feathers of a companion, all he has to do is insult her by discussing donations or the forbidden – negotiate. In Brit’s case, she will immediately end a date and cease from ever communicating with the hobbyist again. Stick to your guns, chicas!

A gentleman practices good hygiene that way you do

What woman finds attractive the hobbyist who shows up stale or stinky, not just freshly showered with minty breath and neatly shaven? It doesn’t take long for a man to groom himself and he most certainly takes less time than us girls. So what does it say about the man who smells from the day’s stress? It says a lot, my friends. We at City Girls believe that you shouldn’t compromise on such a standard because an ill-kept hobbyist is also one who does not respect you enough to take a 10-minute shower.

Your date should understand screening and adhere to your boundaries

At City Girls, an escort does not have to worry about screening because clients are pre-screened before she sees them. However, an independent escort such as Brit bears the burden of screening clients herself if she is to look out for her safety (another reason why she is joining City Girls). Assume your client has passed your screening process. Now, you must ensure that he understands and respects your boundaries. I talked about this in a previous article. Go here to find out more.

Question the legitimacy of gift-giving

I mean no offense to any gentleman who is wishes to embellish his date with the generosity of a gift! What girl will not be flattered? However, in the best interest of the girls, I am talking about the hobbyists who gives a gift laced with ulterior motives because he desires to manipulate her into doing something that she wouldn’t otherwise do. Brit talked about this. In fact, she does not accept gifts at all. I personally find that to be a bit extreme but it works for her. She prefers to avoid any complications, whatsoever. On the other hand, a gift given in all sincerity but denied by its recipient can offend the giver. It’s all about paying attention to the subliminal messages during your date.

What’s the formula for defining the perfect date?

Well, there is none. Wait! Before you get disappointed, re-read this article and others linked within. You will begin to see a pattern that emerges based upon your personal style and goals. Yes, escorting is a real job and therefore should have pre-defined goals. As your goals take shape, so will the quality of your clientele improve. These are words coming from Brit, a lady who has definitely carved her niche at the top in the world of independent escorting.