Picture the hobbyist in a tepid marriage where sparks have long disappeared. The kids have flown the nest. He loves his wife and does not believe in cheating yet cannot end the marriage due to the tangled nature of their history (mortgages, finances, friends, relatives, grandchildren, etc.). He finds himself looking at other women in ways he never did.
Fantasies provide a necessary escape from the here and now. As long as we do not become too rigid or mistake our fantasies for reality they can be entertaining, distracting and arousing. Ooh la la! The possibilities are endless, especially in the hobby. Let us explore a few broad topics that touch (no pun intended) upon your innermost secrets.
Fantasy of the perfect love
Your days are filled with fantasies of a beautiful woman longing for your attention. You yearn for her company and attention. Rather than risk the complications and potential drama of meeting another woman in a conventional manner, you seek the company of a courtesan. Manifested, this situation is more commonly coined as the girl friend experience (GFE). The perfect love can be realized in the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship when taken to the extreme between hobbyist and companion. In either scenario, finding that ideal match comes as close as to intimate perfection as humanly possible. While the situation may be frowned upon or even immoral in the eyes of some, your marriage stays intact while your emotional and physical needs are met.
The secretive, more perverse side of your desires
While City Girls’ independent escorts tend to be deliciously ‘strawberry, vanilla swirl with whipped cream on top’ if you will, there are those gentlemen who seek ‘triple chocolate peanut butter fudge with nuts on top’, if I may. This is a sweet and sassy way of referring to the kinkier thoughts that inhabit the minds of many (yes, many). Light roll playing, perhaps a bit of fetish or dress up might flight your fancy. Now, while City Girls stops short of classic BDSM, there are those spicy independent escorts who love to kick up their heels with some gentle Domination (call her your Domina or Goddess).
Sensuality is mutual meditation
It is perfectly fine to entertain those lascivious thoughts dwelling in the hidden corners of your mind. Exploring your fantasies with a companion who understands and accepts you can actually improve your quality of living. Realizing your fantasies is invigorating and can instill a sense of freedom.
Turning off auto pilot
If you are a hobbyist or gentleman daydreaming of forbidden erotica perhaps it is time to stop procrastinating and do something about them. There is a common misconception that fantasies objectify and distance partners from one another. It is absolutely untrue. Sharing your secret, sensual cravings can actually promote a strong sense of trust and bring you more in touch with yourself. The private self that does not see work or friends deserves just as much attention. You do not have to be quiet. Just be comfortable and confident about what you want. If you are a newbie in terms of exploring your fantasies, start small and work your way up. Express your desires with your companion to make sure that she too is comfortable. Soon, you will discover kinky bliss!
With a multitude of kinky kisses, Chloe