What Makes One Escort Better Than Another?

Your zeal for beautiful women has inspired you to date countless independent escorts over the years. Certainly, some have been better than others. All are unmistakably attractive and most have pleasured you at least to a certain degree. But in what sense is one companion superior to another? Let’s take a closer look at some of the qualities that form the ‘total package’ that is a first-rate escort.

She has a rockin’ body that doesn’t quit

It is the type of figure that every woman covets. Naturally, she is big into fitness which lends heavily to those long, lean yet muscular legs and ridiculously firm bubble bum. Her stomach is chiseled to perfection just below bouncy curves that defy gravity. Her feet are perfectly manicured and bring out the fetish in you.. Her body is a showstopper akin to a Victoria’s Secret model and you go out of your mind with desire. Most importantly, she knows what to do with it.


She has illustrious hair and velvety-smooth skin

Two of the best assets on an independent escort are silken skin and long, glorious tresses that your hands cannot get enough of. Whether it’s an evening of romantic dining at your favorite restaurant or a flurry of private matters in the boudoir, both serve as delicious eye candy and you’ve got a major sweet tooth.

Her carnal aptitude is mind blowing

As a natural pleaser, this trophy of an escort spoils you with ground-shaking delight the likes of which you have never experienced. Now, that’s saying a lot being that you’ve been hobbying forever. What separates this lascivious muse from the rest is an animalistic drive that needs to be satiated on a regular basis. Such cravings WOW your intimacy which is why you feel like king of the universe every time you see her. In short, this chick is the real deal.

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Personalities just don’t get more charismatic

Is she faking it? Moodiness is not a word to describe her starburst disposition. She has a temperament like sunshine that breaks through the clouds after a thunderstorm. Her cheery disposition melts all stress rattling your nerves and all is right with the world. Here is an escort who is chemically balanced and emotionally grounded with a positive outlook on life. If only more women could be like her…

She is witty and smart but not stuck-up

Since you are a gentleman who seeks the girlfriend experience for whatever reasons (only you know what they are) it is quite nice to be able to carry an intelligent conversation. Equal to a woman’s physical splendor is a quick wit and innate wisdom for a combination of appeal that renders her the keeper that you seek. This companion is the sum of such allure and has piqued your interest to no end.

Her psychology is spot on

Quite possibly the summit of all attributes is this escort’s quiet ability to know what you are thinking, feeling and desiring pretty much at all times. She reads your male radar with total precision. More importantly, she gauges what to say and how to say it without going overboard. It is an invisible talent that she uses to the advantage of both of you. In a nutshell, she is a true lady and the highest compliment a man can hope to ask for.

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Have You Ever Fallen in Love With Your Date?

You had only good intentions. Keep things simple and safe. Just dabble in a bit of fun on the side with a bombshell brunette. You know. Kick up your heels a bit and put the F back into fun. The wife’s content with her world and you’re both on decent terms; work’s going great and the mortgage is almost paid off. But then, you done went and fell in love. Seriously?


The heart is never invited to those steamy encounters

But on this particular date things were different. Maybe it’s because life is fairly bland and hasn’t thrown you any curves balls in a while so your guards were down. Or, perhaps a hint of loneliness has been tugging at your psyche for a while and this companion pushed all of your emotional buttons. She actually fulfilled you in more ways than just with frolic. Somehow, things felt so right during those few hours and you felt ardently on top of the world. She left you with a hop in your step but more importantly, a swell in your chest because you’ve been with butterflies ever since.

A hobbyist is not supposed to fall in love

But it happens. Heck, we’ve even seen a gent and his escort tie the knot. Sugar arrangements are probably a more common answer to intense romance – when you must see your muse on a regular basis otherwise you can’t function properly. In a way, such an emotional entanglement can present a sort of ball and chain in that it robs you of the very freedom you enjoyed going into the whole hobbying thing in the first place. Or not.

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She makes you feel young again

Now, gents. Youthfulness is a state of mind and can be robbed of your soul at any age. If you’ve been working your tail off for decades and intimacy at home is in the refrigerator, her affection just might manifest the juvenescence in you. Voila! It’s sensual spring time and and you have a new lease on life.

The prime of your life renewed

Not only are you hizzit’n the skizzins like a virile 18-year old into the wee morning hours, but this chick gets off riding the flagpole like a wild cowgirl and has rendered you immortal in the process. You’ve got your mojo back and that glow about you shows. It’s just that her incredible body void of even an ounce of baby fat and those succulent lips drive you mad with desire. Whatever self- control you used to have is nowhere to be found and your brain is on holiday for the heart rules. Sure, all those yummy escorts you’ve dated over the years were epic but none of them ever had a vice grip on your heart.

Maybe it’s that small golden talisman that she wears on her nude person

Or the way her long hair falls about you when she’s…well, you know. Or perhaps it’s because she listens intently to everything you say and doesn’t ask too many questions, only to respond with another round of kisses. Her energy is unfettered; her inhibitions nonexistent. Her attitude is untainted; her desire for pleasure lustfully unconstrained. When the timing is right, no man can resist.

When does it end?

Only fate knows the answer. But for sure, when it is supposed to. Most important is not to muck things up with drama. Keep your affair neat, clean and confidential. Never spill the beans about your private life, personal affairs or those of your wife and kids (if you have them). Should your relationship ever turn South, the last thing you want to face is a confrontation or worse, a divorce. Enjoy the ride while you can because you never know if it will be the last.

Are You a Peculiar Hobbyist?

There are gentlemen in the hobby with uncommon characteristics. They may have idiosyncrasies that separate them from the ‘average’ hobbyist in the form of physical, psychological or circumstantial conditions. Here at City Girls, we consider every person as an equal, no matter their persuasion, ethnicity, physical state or social status.

This article reaches out to such hobbyists while also speaking to independent escorts who may spend time in the future with these unique gentlemen.

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Physically disabled hobbyists

Such a gentleman may be bound to a wheelchair, rely upon medical devices/equipment or struggle with diabetes, obesity or excessive weight. Despite his physical limitations, he has needs just like every other man. It takes an independent escort with a compassionate and empathetic personality to accommodate him both on physical and emotional levels. As a result of his physical restrictions, this hobbyist may require a handicap-accessible location and special attention to an environment that will address his condition. He may not be able to perform like other men and will benefit from an escort who can bend her policies and services while retaining her personal and professional comfort level. His self-esteem may be delicate and require a gentle companion who can reinforce his confidence. A companion who spends time with a disabled hobbyist has a lot to think about in advance and should consider every detail very carefully.

Hobbyists with mental challenges

An independent escort should carefully consider her ability, desire and safety when entertaining a gentleman with any sort of clinically mental issue. Does this hobbyist deal with a neurosis? If so, what symptoms characterize the illness? Is he bi-polar, paranoid or schizophrenic? The right provider will accept his disorder as part of a normal lifestyle for him and place special emphasis on friendship and understanding. He will value her companionship and might even become a very loyal client.


The importance of diet and medication

An escort should never entertain a client without first confirming his physical

and mental dispositions and any dietary limitations and medicinal requirements. A hobbyist who fails to take his meds can present a life and death situation to an independent escort, thereby placing her livelihood and safety at risk. If he has severe allergies, she should know about them in advance. If he is diabetic, she should ensure that she offers him appropriate snacks. She must confirm in advance and at the time of greeting that he has taken any required medication on a timely basis. Further, she should rely upon her intuition, her ‘gut instinct’ if you will, whether or not she feels that he is being truthful.

Hobbyists with physical deficiencies

Physical birth defects, deformities from arthritis, malformed limbs, and scars from burns or car accidents alter the physique of this hobbyist. A companion should be secure within herself, knowing and accepting that he is human with feelings and needs just like every other person on this planet. Never should she judge him or form a negative opinion. Part of her job as a professional companion is to reassure him that she accepts him for the person he is.


Hobbyists accompanied by others

A gentleman may request an escort to visit him in his home if he is a caretaker. There are actually some hobbyists who either care for elderly parents or are elderly persons themselves. The situation may be perfectly safe. However, an independent escort should use extreme caution in ensuring that the arrangement will not adversely impact her safety, discretion and privacy. Though this type of occasion seems unusual, it is probably perfectly realistic for the client who will appreciate his companion’s services. Again, an escort must always exercise good judgment when determining the truthfulness of her client and the authenticity of the encounter.

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A hobbyist should fully disclose any uncommon physical or mental challenges to his companion. In turn, an escort should do her homework educating and preparing herself in advance. The hobbyist should not take advantage of his escort and neither should get emotionally attached. When both parties are prepared, the groundwork will be in place for a fantastic encounter.

Ultimate Guidelines for Becoming a Sugar Daddy

Most independent escorts enjoy their profession because of the freedom and independence that it gives them. On occasion, a companion may find herself becoming extremely comfortable with a client or even having feelings for him. When a hobbyist shares her sentiments, a potential sugar relationship is born.

When an independent escort becomes a sugar baby, her regular business becomes inactive. In some cases, she maintains multiple sugar relationships simultaneously. For the hobbyist turned sugar daddy, what is his role? We have come up with some guidelines based upon what we’ve seen and heard within the industry.

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A sugar daddy should be in a position to meet his financial obligation

A sugar daddy is an established gentleman who is usually a wealthy entrepreneur or operates a successful corporation. He is at a point in his life where he can enjoy the freedom and exhilaration that being with a sugar baby gives him. His net worth is solid, he drives a luxury automobile and he can afford to take care of himself. He has ample income to compensate his sugar baby on a regular basis (weekly, bi-weekly or monthly). In exchange, he enjoys her companionship through regular dating, traveling, conversation and intimacy.

A sugar arrangement should be respectful and beneficial to both

A sugar relationship is a contracted relationship. Both parties should enter into the agreement fully aware of what each gives to the other. How often will a sugar daddy want to see his sugar baby? How much advance notice does she need to set aside quality time to see him? Details of the arrangement should be understood at all times to keep things clear. A proper sugar daddy demonstrates the value and worth of his sugar baby by looking out for her in several ways:

  • He sees that she is well taken care of with an elegant wardrobe;
  • He makes sure that living conditions are top notch;
  • He ensures that her transportation is more than adequate and accommodating;
  • He regularly shows his appreciation for her beauty, intelligence and is there for her when she needs him.

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Generosity is important

Above and beyond the agreed financial compensation that a sugar daddy bestows upon his sugar baby, he shows his generosity by giving her gifts and trinkets and even surprises her with romantic travel excursions. Remember, the little details that count! On one occasion he may bring her flowers; on another he may surprise her with tickets to the theater; he might treat her to a luxurious dinner at a prestigious restaurant; and in some cases, may even buy her a new car. A sugar baby should feel that she is special to her sugar daddy. The sum of his gestures and her gracious receipt of them will encourage a wonderfully exciting and stable sugar relationship.

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Setting boundaries is the golden rule in a sugar relationship

No matter how genuine, intense or romantic a sugar relationship becomes, a sugar daddy and sugar baby should not become too attached and never lose respect. Doing so goes against the rules of the contracted relationship, blurs boundaries and can seriously jeopardize the arrangement. Even though she is a sugar baby, she has a life, may have a job or go to school and even have children. A sugar daddy should expect his sugar baby to establish some sort of schedule that applies to how often and when they see each other, frequency of phone calls and communication in general. On the other hand, a sugar daddy should not:

  • Abuse the relationship by taking advantage of her in any way;
  • Show up at her home unexpectedly;
    Control her life; or
  • Infringe upon her private matters.

A sugar baby is not an object but a human being to be respected at all times.

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Never forget good hygiene

When a sugar daddy takes good care of himself his sugar baby will appreciate his efforts and likely find him more attractive. The last thing a sugar daddy should do is ‘let himself go’ because he feels that he is entitle to do so. Chances are that his sugar baby will be considerably younger than him with a lot of vitality. Regular exercise, a healthy diet and vitamin supplements all contribute to good health. Neat, fashionable attire, meticulous grooming and regular skin treatments are all a part of maintaining good hygiene.

A sugar relationship should be loads of fun

The world is an exciting playground in a sugar relationship! Build great experiences by getting to know one another, going places, traveling, dining, talking and laughing. A sugar daddy should take in his sugar baby’s youthful exuberance and positive energy by living life to the fullest. Isn’t that what it’s all about?

Unforgettable kisses, Chloe xoxo

When a Hobbyist Wants to Marry an Escort

When a dating engagement is carefully measured, considering all aspects of compatibility, the stage is set for explosive chemistry. Such is the scenario when a hobbyist pursues the company of a companion or courtesan who excels in the girl friend experience. Most likely, he is not looking for permanent love. But if he seeks emotional and/or psychological fulfillment or restoration from loneliness, his heart becomes vulnerable. Factor in his escort’s physical splendor and charismatic personality and he becomes a bulls eye target for amour.

hobbyist marrying an escort

While this may appear as a scary question due to the nature of her work as a companion, what man really knows the difference in the beginning of any love relationship? Romance and matters of the heart involve powerfully blinding emotions that can skew the good judgment of anyone.

Is it really love or just infatuation?

There are no guarantees in any relationship and if there were, insurance companies would bank! There are men and women alike who come from multiple divorces, dysfunctional families, broken homes and even abusive backgrounds. Someone, please reveal the ideal formula for a marriage that does not end. Even childhood sweethearts with storybook families end up divorced. Who is to say that the hobbyist/escort romance cannot tie the knot and prevail indefinitely?

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Is he headed down the sugar daddy path?

There is a chance that if she stops working in order to devote her time exclusively to her man and their relationship, her income will vanish. Both parties must check within themselves for genuineness of their involvement. Further, supporting a partner is a financial and emotional responsibility (regardless of his net worth) which can burden the relationship if not handled openly and with clear intent. However, if hobbyist turned fiancé accepts his role as main breadwinner, they are in love and escort turned future wife agree, then it is not a sugar relationship.


Will she continue working as an independent escort if they marry?

Now here is an interesting twist that defies all convention. Admittedly, there are those marriages in which an escort remains same with knowledge and acceptance of her husband. Are they swingers? Do they have children? Does he fully accept what she does for a living? Personally, I do not know what the divorce rate is of such a unique demographic, but who cares? Even the most conservative couples divorce for a myriad of reasons. Often when an escorting couple divorces, the split is caused by reasons indirectly related to the act of escorting itself.

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Will she sign an annulment?

Doing so may be considered a true test of love. While I understand how a gentleman would want to protect his assets, especially if he has an x-wife who took him to the cleaners during the divorce process, many women find the proposition offensive. Truthfully, two people should marry for nothing but love and a balanced ability of both parties to support each other spiritually, mindfully and psychologically. But that is not the way the world works for most.

Proceed with caution and wisdom

Perhaps the most difficult challenge for the hobbyist who wants to marry his escort is honoring the deepest corners of his integrity. He should remain clear about his true intentions with a sharp eye focused on the fate of his future. In the end, both parties should remember that despite what conventional society has to say, what do they know? If there was a perfect formula for marriage then no one would be divorced.

With boundless kisses, Chloe xoxo

Decoding Your Fantasies

Picture the hobbyist in a tepid marriage where sparks have long disappeared. The kids have flown the nest. He loves his wife and does not believe in cheating yet cannot end the marriage due to the tangled nature of their history (mortgages, finances, friends, relatives, grandchildren, etc.). He finds himself looking at other women in ways he never did.

Fantasies provide a necessary escape from the here and now. As long as we do not become too rigid or mistake our fantasies for reality they can be entertaining, distracting and arousing. Ooh la la! The possibilities are endless, especially in the hobby. Let us explore a few broad topics that touch (no pun intended) upon your innermost secrets.

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Fantasy of the perfect love

Your days are filled with fantasies of a beautiful woman longing for your attention. You yearn for her company and attention. Rather than risk the complications and potential drama of meeting another woman in a conventional manner, you seek the company of a courtesan. Manifested, this situation is more commonly coined as the girl friend experience (GFE). The perfect love can be realized in the sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship when taken to the extreme between hobbyist and companion. In either scenario, finding that ideal match comes as close as to intimate perfection as humanly possible. While the situation may be frowned upon or even immoral in the eyes of some, your marriage stays intact while your emotional and physical needs are met.

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The secretive, more perverse side of your desires

While City Girlsindependent escorts tend to be deliciously ‘strawberry, vanilla swirl with whipped cream on top’ if you will, there are those gentlemen who seek ‘triple chocolate peanut butter fudge with nuts on top’, if I may. This is a sweet and sassy way of referring to the kinkier thoughts that inhabit the minds of many (yes, many). Light roll playing, perhaps a bit of fetish or dress up might flight your fancy. Now, while City Girls stops short of classic BDSM, there are those spicy independent escorts who love to kick up their heels with some gentle Domination (call her your Domina or Goddess).

Sensuality is mutual meditation

It is perfectly fine to entertain those lascivious thoughts dwelling in the hidden corners of your mind. Exploring your fantasies with a companion who understands and accepts you can actually improve your quality of living. Realizing your fantasies is invigorating and can instill a sense of freedom.

Turning off auto pilot

If you are a hobbyist or gentleman daydreaming of forbidden erotica perhaps it is time to stop procrastinating and do something about them. There is a common misconception that fantasies objectify and distance partners from one another. It is absolutely untrue. Sharing your secret, sensual cravings can actually promote a strong sense of trust and bring you more in touch with yourself. The private self that does not see work or friends deserves just as much attention. You do not have to be quiet. Just be comfortable and confident about what you want. If you are a newbie in terms of exploring your fantasies, start small and work your way up. Express your desires with your companion to make sure that she too is comfortable. Soon, you will discover kinky bliss!

With a multitude of kinky kisses, Chloe

Managing Infatuation

It started as a date for the evening with a stunning independent escort. You both connected. The intimacy was riveting. You laughed and talked. Your libido spiraled to inexplicable heights. She smiled and bathed you in attention like you have never known. You didn’t want to leave.

When a riveting companion enters your life with such intimate force an overwhelming feeling of infatuation can set in. Even as an experienced hobbyist you may feel vulnerable and head over heels in love or lust!

She has entered your life

You schedule several hours with this delightful beauty. However, time becomes crowded because the evening is rich with not only intimacy but mental and emotional connection. You confirm spending the entire night with her because you cannot fathom leaving. You stay up all night talking and who knows what else. Eventually, you say goodbye because life prevails.

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She has altered your life

Friends, colleagues and obligations fade into the background. Your thoughts dwell upon memories, her scent, her touch, her tenderness and her wildness. Others do not matter. People, places and time fade as though they never existed. Fueled by her affections, the future and life in general are unusually optimistic. Your self-confidence is inflated and your self esteem higher than ever. Such energy limits sleep and is replaced by an overwhelming lust and a super charged libido. In short, she completes you. Feelings of completion and wholeness set in, so you think.

When separation takes its toll

Anxiety sets in and you may feel down. Self-doubt crowds your mindset and energy drains. Concentration becomes difficult as thoughts of her consume all of you. Things might even reach the point of jealousy in which you grow suspicious of what she is doing and who she is seeing. Your mind plays tricks on you as you wonder if her feelings for you are the same. Any contact with her is equivalent to a boost of adrenaline.


What you are feeling

Infatuation triggers a huge surge of dopamine in your brain and changes the way you think. The pleasure center is activated and adrenaline is produced. Desire for your lover is intensified. You feel bonded to her along with a sense of trust and emotional attachment. All in all, a feeling of euphoria results which overrides logic. Concentration becomes difficult and you may even experience withdrawals clouding your thinking.

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Getting over infatuation

Try to focus on doing activities that you enjoyed before you met her. Remember the meaning that your life had at that time. The sooner you can restore your happiness the sooner you will overcome your infatuation. Even if you get down or have a tough day at the office, avoid reaching her. Call a friend instead or better yet, exercise!

Treat yourself to the girl friend experience

Seek the company of another lovely independent escort who is a GFE. She will not only console your emotions but will distract you. She may even cure your infatuation! Eventually, you will overcome these false desires and move on to a healthy, balanced enjoyment of engaging with a companion.

Many kisses, Chloe

Hobbying with a Pure Conscience

Hobbying – why do men seek the company of escorts? The reasons are many. Those women who specialize in professional dating provide a valuable service to gentlemen whose motivations are quite justifiable. Let us take a closer look.

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Travelling hobbyist

The traveling business man with no time to pursue a conventional date

There are those men who travel for business and desire to be with a woman at a specific time and place. They do not have the schedule or tolerance to deal with the hassles or games associated with regular dating. In this case, dating an independent escort makes total sense. If he is paying for her time and company, then he may want her to provide desert after dinner. He can decide how he wants the evening to end. In any case, the encounter is neat, clean and organized and fits within his rigid schedule.

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The married man searching for something more

He has children, family, a mortgage and a circle of close friends. Breaking the marriage is absolutely out of the question for psychological and financial reasons. He may love his wife and they might even be close friends. However, behind closed doors, the marriage suffers from neglect and dissatisfaction. There is a strong element of intimate unhappiness. As an alternative to divorce, it is much more convenient to seek the company of an escort who tailors herself to his needs. Often, the relationship is one based upon companionship and deep intimacy.

The guy who wants a guaranteed good time

He can be a devilishly handsome single man, a successful and distinguished executive or a combination. He prefers to find his companion online according to his list of personal specifications. He is a perfectionist when it comes to women. He expects his date to be splendidly dressed and impeccably manicured. He is aroused not only by her fabulous figure but her gracious and classy demeanor. Behind closed doors, she will do most anything to satisfy his desires. She is the epitome of intimacy and romance. This man realizes that the benefits of dating an escort far exceed that of a conventional date in both time and consideration.

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Some men have a hard time closing the dating deal

The gentleman who does not shine in the personality department may seek the company of a companion. Perhaps he has a difficult time approaching women, much less landing a date. Or, his physique may be significantly less than ideal or both. When he dates an escort, his self worth is renewed because she is able to draw forth the best in him. She is the kind of woman who makes him feel like a million bucks. Why should he go anywhere else?

Many couples become close friends and even do business together as entrepreneurs

As a hobbyist, when your intentions are clear, honest and defined, the dating experience is one of spectacular quality. Many providers that begin solely with the intention of professional dating as a source of income come to love their profession. Why? Because they forge memorable relationships with men of gentility and utmost respect.

With only delicious kisses, Chloe xoxo

Scent of Sensuality

Whether dangerously sweet or daringly spicy, an alluring scent can act as a powerful aphrodisiac. It can truly represent a man’s personality when properly selected. It can be vexing when applied in excess or hazardous to the health when worn around a sensitive person. In the latter two cases, fragrance can be a deterrent with adverse effects on a hobbyist and his date. Scent is just that potent!

Less is more

We have talked about this before. Are you a gentleman who drowns himself in less expensive cologne that happens to be made with alcohol? Perhaps out of nervousness, you may feel inclined to apply excess the likes of taking a shower in an overexerted effort to capture the bouquet. Thank the stars above that such fragrances quickly evaporate from the skin. Bless the nostrils that grace your presence in the meantime because they will be overpowered.  Better to invest in a pricier fragrance (check out the men’s department at Nordstrom for their customer service works great with the clueless). The scent will be far more original and only require a few dabs here and there (uh, ‘there’ is entirely up to you) to flatter not irritate your companion.

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Elegant sensual young woman holding perfume, golden tones, small amount of grain added

Fragrance tastes repulsive

The reader will pardon me for taking this particular section a few steps down South. If you have ever kissed, licked or otherwise mingled your taste buds with skin tainted by the bitter, chalky flavor of deodorant or body spray, you know what I’m talking about. Ugh. There is no better way to shock the libido into non existence. Hobbyists and independent escorts alike, I’m talking to you: apply your perfume where you wish but exercise caution. Those hungry lips searching for the back of your neck or certain areas of the chest may be greeted by the sour surprise of your delicious fragrance turned evil. Perfume can be your friend or foe so best to get to know what it can and cannot do for you. Apply to areas least likely to meet with saliva – backs of your wrists, hair, knees, sides of your waist, underarms.

Consider your dating environment before applying

Taking a long drive to reach your dining destination? Enjoying a romantic, candle lit evening within the tight quarters of a one-room hotel suite? Attending the opera? Any scent beyond a subtle whiff is going to mock the senses of your date and wreak havoc on your evening. To be quite blunt, one of you may even get pissed off and say something you will both regret. It is better to be safe than sorry and forego the creed that scent is compulsory. As an alternative, purchase some aromatic, organic shampoo, conditioner and/or body wash. Aveda has a fabulous line for men. Both parties will be highly appreciative and might even get lucky.

Burden lies with the person with the sensitivity

Ladies and gentlemen, if any of you are highly sensitive to artificial scent, the onus is on you to inform your date! Personally, there have been times when my nose has met with the foul-smelling perfume that the wearer sadly considered to smell fine. Worse yet, if any of you have asthma or allergies, inform your date in advance that he or she should arrive unscented. Be specific about shampoos and hair products if your condition is that severe. Scent is a sensual thing and should be revered for its power whether it is perfume, the lingering aroma of fresh bread, sizzling garlic or the musk of just-loved bodily oils. The aspects of desire and physical appeal rely heavily on what adorns your skin. Make yourself impossible to forget. If you want to capture your date’s attention, whisper.

Many succulent kisses, Chloe xoxo

Managing Emotions in Escort Dating

What is the true nature of a meeting between a hobbyist and an independent escort? While discretion is paramount, a companion’s emotional warmth should be sincere yet measured within a zone that feels safe to her. Not all providers may agree with this as there are those who keep clients at far more than an arm’s length. All being said, how an escort and a hobbyist choose to manage their emotions is purely subjective.

The decent and trustworthy gentleman who deserves a little more

He is a companion’s best client. He demonstrates his patronage by requesting the pleasure of her company often. He revels in her presence and there is a sense of loyalty about him. She may recognize him as a gem and even a friend. One would suspect that such an ideal hobbyist/provider relationship deserves extra recognition because there is value evident on both sides. Perhaps such a scenario should allow for genuine warmth and a certain amount of trust.

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The green provider who ignores her instincts

Independent escorts who are new to the industry should learn to recognize men who take advantage of naïve providers. In this situation, an independent escort who is not backed by a club or agency may be placing herself in harm’s way without properly screening potential clients. In this case, possessing good common sense is critical. Without such, she may override her instincts for the mere sake of scheduling an appointment. Regrettably, there are plenty of providers who exercise poor judgment and place their reputations or even lives in danger as a result.

Where to draw the line with empathy

The genuine girl friend experience illustrates a perfect circumstance. When a hobbyist finds himself in a state of emotional neediness due to divorce or marital problems, he may be vulnerable. An independent escort who feels a sense of kinship and genuine compassion to this man may open the doors to sentiment. Her sincere intentions as well as his unguarded disposition make the recipe for feelings gone awry. She should never lose touch with her professionalism and always keep her focus on the client/provider relationship.

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Male and female legs during a date

Managing a sugar relationship

While neither man nor companion may refer to themselves as sugar daddy or sugar baby respectively, many such interactions take on all the characteristics defined by sugar. It is rare that a married man with ties to his family will leave his household to fully devote himself to his sugar baby. Therefore, a companion turned sugar baby should keep her wits about her and never fail to recognize the relationship for what it really is – one with benefits and boundaries.

The hobby can be richly rewarding or devastatingly damaging

It is not always easy to keep the mind and emotions separate for they often run parallel. Wisdom in navigating the hobby is truly about safety on every level: hygiene, emotion, reputation and even death. Whether you are a hobbyist or a provider, you should always keep your wits about you, never ignoring your instincts. There is always that little voice whispering deep down inside. It generally knows best.

Many kisses, Chloe xoxo