Categorizing the Companion

Whether she refers to herself as an independent escort, companion or courtesan, there are many reasons why a woman chooses to become a provider.

If we were to generalize, we might talk about certain stereotypes as defined by society. In any case, probably the most common threads are the aspiration for a comfortable income and expression of sensuality. Whether or not the reader agrees with the implied ideals at hand, many companions feel good about themselves, not to mention their clients who feel even better.

Very beautiful and sexy working woman wearing a safety or security jacket or vest and a helmet
Very beautiful and sexy working woman wearing
a safety or security jacket or vest and a helmet

The working woman provider

She has a professional career or job. She works as an independent escort for a variety of reasons. At the end of the day, she enjoys her business and the gentlemen with whom she comes in contact. Often, women with day jobs find that they so enjoy their work as independent escorts that some walk away from their conventional employment.

Let's go shopping!
Let’s go shopping!

The materialistic escort

She is the kind of girl who takes an avid interest in designer fashions, fine cars and cuisine and an overall upscale lifestyle. While she exudes sensual talent, her standards for the high life are rigorous. Often, her aspirations extend beyond the physical world to uphold spiritual values and morals.

Fashion photo of young sensual woman in jeans
Fashion photo of young sensual woman in jeans

The sensual escort

She is the companion who happily discovered her niche in the world of adult entertainment. She may be mature. For sure, she loves what she does in the genuine sense. While she may be a bit eccentric, she is emotionally balanced and finds solace in self expression through eroticism.

Rear view of sexy fetish woman in black leather corset
Rear view of sexy fetish woman in black leather corset

The alternative escort

For a combination of various factors, this provider is into alternative measures such as BDSM, Femdom, fetish or other avenues of kink. To what degree she advances her practice is subjective. She could be a glorified provider with an emphasis on subtle domination for kicks and giggles or she could be genuinely into any of the aforementioned. Sensual massage may be her thing and she might even be a Tantrica in the making. All attributes are experienced at the benefit of her client.

Woman and airplane
Woman and airplane

The international companion

She is a natural born courtesan. She is educated, worldly and/or wise, striking in her own way and is an inherent relationship expert. She is a confidante. Her clients flow toward her like water in what typically result in long lasting interactions. Her engagements are generally not less than an entire weekend, week or longer. She tends to travel with her suitors. She is empowered by her profession, yet retains a sense of humbleness. She is uncommon. While we do not promote labeling or generalization, we do acknowledge that there is measured validity in recognizing provider prototypes. As in any profession and life in general, individuality prevails. Every person has their story. Independent escorts and hobbyists are no exception.

Hobbyists into Sensual Female Domination (fem dom)

Women into sensual fem dom can be just as dainty or feminine as the girl next door. 

The practice of sensual female domination (sensual fem dom) is not characterized by women who are mean and harsh and want to hurt men. Nor are they necessarily regaled in shiny, black latex or crude leather and wickedly pointed steel-toed boots. The reader should focus on the operative word here which is ‘sensual’. No need to be frightened.

What is sensual fem dom?

A sensual fem dom is a woman who to a limited degree, dominates her man. Theirs can be a playful act carried out as a simple fantasy on a date or an agreed upon lifestyle between two consenting lovers. Such a hobbyist finds sexual and psychological pleasure when an independent escort ‘takes the upper hand’. Whether basic or advanced, she assumes a rather dominant role in the scenario but always remains womanly in appearance while maintaining a soft approach. She is playful and teasing as she takes the lead and may even incorporate a toy or two at the request of the hobbyist. This sizzling combination is a powerful turn on for any hobbyist wishing to explore sensual fem dom. She may lead him to the brink of ecstasy only to halt her pleasures at that seemingly explosive moment, leaving him hanging on the edge of a colossal O and pleading for more. She may then flash a subtle, girlish smile, flirting with her eyes as he surrenders to the titillating spell she has cast over him. He willfully relinquishes control to this dazzling beauty, this sensual fem dom who is the ultimate goddess come true.

Hobbyists into sensual fem dom

Often but not limited to, there are two types of men who enjoy sensual fem dom:

  • The one whose world implodes with stress or anxiety. He is a powerhouse of a man, laden with too many responsibilities and too much decision-making. With total confidence, he desires to let it all go and release himself in the trusted company of an independent escort who takes the lead.
  • The one who is passive, shy or insecure and feels safe and nurtured in the company of a more dominant independent escort. His manhood is re-affirmed and his sexuality ignited by a beautiful independent escort who exerts control in her role as a sensual fem dom.


How can a hobbyist know if an independent escort is into sensual fem dom?

While there are many independent escorts who feature the service, there are those who have the makings of a sensual fem dom without necessarily realizing it. If an independent escort sports a naturally assertive or controlling personality laced with self-confidence, chances are she will enjoy her role as a sensual fem dom. Hobbyists and independent escorts can dabble in this form of role playing (she somewhat dominant, he somewhat submissive) without considering themselves to be fetishists. 

The differences between sensual fem dom and fem dom

Depending on how it is interpreted by the individual, sensual fem dom merely flirts with fetishism not to be taken seriously. Sensual fem dom is light and playful void of extreme intensity. Fem dom involves fixation and pre-occupation with interpersonal roles of dominance and submission wherein the hobbyist becomes her slave and personal property. When the latter occurs, the independent escort or hobbyist will then know that they have crossed over into the world of fem dom within the realm of BDSM (bondage, dominance, submission and sadism) and the sky is the limit in all forms of kink. For some, BDSM is a cult where rituals and practices become an almost religious way of life. Sensual fem dom is nowhere near as extreme as fem dom and is certainly not perverse. Sensual fem dom is a rather ‘fat free’ version of fem dom, if you will.

City Girls believes in different strokes for different folks

Exploring sexuality can be quite fulfilling with something as simple as a gratifying conversation with a beautiful, independent escort. Sexuality is born in the mind beginning with our thoughts. Sensual fem dom is almost always accompanied by the girlfriend experience, adding erotic flame to passionate fire. What two adults choose to do with this exciting fantasy is then totally up to them.

Women Who Like Porn

Pornography has been around since the prehistoric Paleolithic period when nude women and crude vulvas were inscribed on stone walls. Pornography includes writings, images and films that evoke sexual excitement.

Whether or not those mediums merit artistry is subjective to the viewer or reader. That being said, most women would be turned on if exposed to an avenue of porn that agrees with their style. What about the women, namely, independent escorts, who are really into porn films? What do they like and why do they watch it?

Pick your porn

A woman will not get turned on by a film that abuses or degrades a woman. She will be offended and turned off. A lot of porn features the male actor exploiting the female actress with rough treatment, disrespect and virtual disregard for her feelings, both physically and psychologically. However, there are those movies where it is obvious that the actors are enjoying themselves and the pleasure is mutual. If you are a man and/or hobbyist who aspires to select a film to spice up your date, select a movie that takes into consideration the feelings of women. Such approach may be a departure from what style of porn normally attracts you.

What kind of porn films do women like?

If an independent escort is bisexual or at a minimum, sexually intrigued by women, she will get aroused by a lesbian or ménage a tois video. With such tendencies, she may even fantasize about personal encounters when she is satisfying herself in private. Regardless of sexual tendencies, there are many independent escorts who get off watching male-on-male videos (or even live, for that matter!). While the heterosexual hobbyist may be repulsed by such subject matter, there are plenty of bisexual hobbyists who would appreciate this twist on porn. Fetish films that explore BDSM play more on the psyche of the viewer and participant. Many folks take great pleasure indulging in such realms. Fetish films range from subtle role playing and fem-dom to extreme actions such as bondage, reverse role playing and torture.


Women get aroused by everything

Though we may not like to admit, spotting a man with a nice derriere, a woman with perky breasts or a sensual couple with the freedom to openly display their affection arouse us. On a softer note, television series such as Red Shoe Diaries might appeal to the timid woman who finds explicit porn overwhelming. Porn actresses tend to have very sexy bodies that we women find appealing. The great thing about porn is that there are figure types to attract every type of viewer. Ladies (even independent escorts) might feel threatened by certain female figure types. For example, if she does not feel good about her physique, the porn actress with a rockin’ hard body might pose a threat to her. On the other hand, a voluptuous actress who celebrates her body in confidence might turn her on. The bottom line is that women are quite sexual.

What type of porn should you include during your date?

If you are a hobbyist who would like your companion to include porn to your date, ask what she likes in advance! Though she will be inclined to appeal to your needs exclusively, you can really spice things up by acknowledging her desires as well. Visual stimulation that excites both parties will only serve to deepen your intimacy and ultimately, your connection.

Fulfilling Sensual Fantasies

Acting out a sensual fantasy can make or break a relationship. In that case, some fantasies are better kept private or if you are a hobbyist, shared with your favorite independent escort with whom you can always express an open mind!

How to recognize when a fantasy is a blessing in disguise when shared with your companion ? Let’s explore some ideas that just may get you all fired up!

Film your own home movie

This is the kind of movie that is for your eyes only and by that I do not mean that parental guidance is suggested. Set up your video camera on a tripod so that it is angled just so. Be sure to turn on the volume! You do not have to film any facial expressions or close-up shots. Remember that many women, independent escorts included, tend to be critical about certain parts of their bodies so take heed when positioning your camera. Later, the two of you can watch your film to spice up your intimacy and open the lines of communication.

Explore domination and submission

You do not have to get extreme to add a little flare to make your experience together earth shattering. Don’t worry if BDSM or extreme fetish is not your thing. Exploring your secret desires whether you as a hobbyist are being dominated (sensual domination) or she as an independent escort is being submissive can move the intimate earth off its axis.

Go to a strip joint or sex club

Since we are talking about venturing into the fringes of fetish territory, why not head to a strip joint or sex club? Unleash the voyeuristic and exhibitionistic tendencies in you by adding some spice to the evening. Being in the environment of other sexy couples and single women can inspire the night. Who knows? Maybe your companion may be up for her own strip dance on the stage!

Live life to the fullest!

The best thing to do is talk about your fantasies with your date in advance. Most independent escorts will be open to your ideas and more than willing (and ready) to accommodate your desires. The fact that many independent escorts are into the girl friend experience will make your time together even more pleasurable. Exploring your fantasies can liberate you to the point where eventually what we all consider ‘regular’ intimacy will become ordinary!

City Girls believes that erotic fantasies are universal

Whether your fantasies are carried out fully with an independent escort manifested through your imagination or simply reside in your mind the choice is up to you. Why subscribe to social taboos or inhibitions when you can express your innermost impulses?

Role playing for Beginners

There is something that we have all at least considered at one point or another with our partners and that is role playing. Role playing can have a very strong erotic element that involves two people who act out roles in a personal fantasy.

Whether you consider it foreplay or take it all the way to an extreme that involves a fetish is up to you. Some couples consider it a titillating game that they even play out in public! All can be extremely arousing and lead to explosive endings. Role playing is also a great way to overcome inhibitions.

Suggestions to get the creative juices flowing

Some of the most common scenarios (and probably one or two that you have already tried) include:

  • Exhibitionist/voyeur – quite a few escorts are professional dancers and sought after by manyhobbyists. But what if the hobbyist (voyeur in this case) is not allowed to touch? Oh là là! Just imagine the energy that will build.
  • Photographer/model – As a hobbyist, have you ever thought about taking risqué photos of your lady? Many escorts don’t mind and of course there are those who do. Best to check with your girl before springing the idea on her with camera in hand.
  • Teacher/student – this can be considered somewhat of a regressive practice in which one party acts younger than the other. Unless, your escort lady plays the sexy student and you as the hobbyist play the stern professor. What happens if she doesn’t do as she’s told? You take it from there!
  • Doctor/patient – at some point, one of you needs a physical exam. How many times have we met a sexy female doctor? What a riveting interaction.
  • Master/slave – this form of role playing involves dominance and submission, in some worlds known as BDSM. On the other hand, it can be as simple as one playing the slave in which he or she must complete a series of chores regaled in something quite revealing. This scenario definitely takes housekeeping to a whole new level!


Keep it simple and have a good time

Remember that there is no need to be intimidated by role playing. You are not auditioning for a part in a movie and no one is judging you. Think of role playing as an adult game. No scripts or costumes are needed. However, props can certainly add an element of excitement! Many escorts maintain a collection of toys and the like that may be incorporated into your sensual games.

How seriously you role play is up to you

At City Girls, we think that keeping it simple and vanilla can lend all the spice that an escort and hobbyist need to really live it up. But there are those who take role playing much more seriously and even lead lifestyles dedicated to their fetishes. Who knows. Maybe a little role playing fun will open doors to a whole new world!